TPP 154a: Dr. Mona Delahooke on Looking Beyond Children's Challenging Behaviors
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
48 min
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8 chapters
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What is the purpose of this re‑released episode and who is the guest?
Hey there, it's Debbie. Today's episode is a special re-release of a favorite conversation from the archives. Unless you're a longtime listener of the show, there's a good chance you haven't heard this one before. And even if you have, you just might get something completely different from it this time around.
A disruptive or challenging behavior is often seen as a choice a child is making. And one of the biggest points I make is that There's that expectation gap between what we think a child can do in terms of controlling their emotions and their behaviors and what a child or teenager Or a young adult can actually do.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. My name is Debbie Rieber, and I'm the host of this show. And I just have to say up front that today's episode is one of those powerful, deep conversations that will likely leave you seeing and thinking about things differently by the time you're done. Listening. My guest is Dr. Mona Delahook, a clinical and consulting pediatric psychologist specializing in supporting children and families. On the homepage for Mona's website, the following words are written in large type. It's high time we update our approaches to helping children with behavioral challenges and developmental differences.
And this is exactly what Mona has devoted her work to doing. Shifting the paradigm for the way behavior, especially behavior in differently wired kids, is perceived and responded to in our schools. Our families and in society. In this powerful conversation, we talk about what's really behind quote unquote disruptive behaviors, the fundamental problems behind behavior diagnoses such as oppositional defiance disorder, the cost to our kids whose challenging behavior is misunderstood, and what Mona believes it will take for things to change. She also talks with the Us about her brand new game-changing book, Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to have this conversation with Mona and for the work she is doing in the world on behalf of our kids. I hope you enjoy this episode. And a quick shout-out before I get to the episode. Today I wanted to give thanks to Pamela Santos and Lauren O'Donohue, two new members of my Tilt Parenting Patreon community and supporters of this podcast. If you enjoy this podcast and would like to support its production, please consider joining Pamela and Lauren by making a small monthly contribution, five or ten or even twenty dollars a month, to help fund this show. That money goes directly toward covering the production costs for the show and keeping Tilt Parenting going. You'll also get access to exclusive content from me when you join that community.
Thank you so much for considering, and if you want to learn more or sign up, just go to patreon.com/slash tiltparenting. Lastly, I have two other quick requests. This month marks the three year anniversary of Tilled Parenting, and I'm close to reaching two big milestones. With your help, I can hit them. The first is this podcast is almost at one million downloads. Since you've already downloaded this episode, if you're listening to it, my ask is that you share this episode or your favorite episodes with other parents and communities who might benefit from the content. My second ask is if you've read my book differently wired and it resonated with you, please consider taking a few minutes to go to Amazon and write a short review for the book.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the purpose of this re‑released episode and who is the guest?
0:00–4:53
2
How does Dr. Mona Delahooke describe her background and expertise in pediatric psychology?
4:53–12:05
3
What is the core message of the book *Beyond Behaviors* and why did she write it?
12:05–18:45
4
How does the ‘expectation gap’ affect children’s ability to regulate emotions and behavior?
18:45–24:35
5
What are the three autonomic‑nervous‑system pathways (green, red, blue) and how do they explain behavior?
24:35–31:26
6
Why does Dr. Delahooke argue that Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a label rather than a cause?
31:26–37:18
7
What practical strategies does she recommend for parents to support children in stress responses?
37:18–44:06
8
What final advice does Dr. Delahooke leave listeners with for navigating challenging behaviors?
44:06–48:15
Speakers
1 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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