TPP 236: Amy Lang on How "The Talk" Can Keep Your Kids Safe Online During Covid
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Y this is required. Like, this is not. Optional, it's required. And I don't care how good your kid is or how smart they are. Everybody's curious about sex. Everybody.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Rieber. This week I'm bringing back to the podcast sexuality educator and parenting expert Amy Lang for a follow-up conversation about online pornography. I know this is something on many parents' minds right now as kids are spending more and more time online during the pandemic. After hearing from more and more anxious parents and knowing from my past conversations with Amy just how important it is that kids have the information and context they need about porn, I wanted to have a frank conversation about how parents can initiate and continue to have conversations with their kids about sexuality.
Amy is passionate about helping parents get comfortable being uncomfortable, and fostering a dynamic with our children that will result in healthy attitudes around sexuality. In our conversation, I asked Amy to shed some light on what she is seeing and hearing from parents during the pandemic, what parents should be looking out for right now, and the literal words that parents can use to start these important conversations. with our kids. Also, if you haven't heard my other conversations with Amy, be sure to check them out.
What is the purpose of “The Talk” and why is it more important during COVID?
Episode forty four is about sex education and differently wired kids, and episode one hundred o two is about pornography specifically. Also, if you listen to the show with your kids, this may be one that you would ask them to leave the room for. And now here is my conversation with Amy. Hey Amy, welcome back to the podcast. Thank you. I'm so excited to talk to you and your people. Yes. This is another important conversation that we need to have. And I I think we've talked for the show a couple of times before. And I I think it's important to kind of update and check in because of what's happening in the world and COVID and just the amount of time our kids are spending online and spending alone and feeling isolated and all of that stuff.
So Before we start talking about that, can you just take a few minutes and do your your general introductory spiel about yourself? I'm happy
to. So I am a sexuality educator and I have been for Very long time, like I think I'm coming on like twenty-seven years, which scares me. But anyway, uh, so I started out doing uh pregnancy, abortion, birth control counseling, and then that led me to do general sexual health education and counseling. I worked for Planned Parenthood for a couple of years, and I just had figured I was gonna be an amazing sex talker when I had kids. And I had my son Milo and it turns out that I would rather talk to a pregnant fourteen year old than my four year old about his penis. So That was my little like uh moment where I realized I needed to get some help. So I started doing some research. And I also have a master's degree in adult education.
And so while I was figuring this out for myself, I realized that, oh, I could combine my two favorite things, talking about sex and doing adult education. So I did, and that was about 14 years ago, and I started Birds and Bees and Kids and I've been helping parents and other folks talk with kids about sexuality, love and relationships. Um, I also focus part of my work on understanding like playing doctor, what's normal, what's not, and how to help kids with that. So That's what I do. And sadly, the porn and all that has become, you know, right now in particular, I'm getting lots of emails and calls from folks about like what do we do with this time? Exactly what you just said, right? Like l so much more time online.
And I'm really glad we're gonna be able to talk about this because it's confusing and scary.
It is, and I'm so glad that you Do the work that you do. I think for many people, certainly many of my listeners, certainly for me, raising my hand, this can sometimes feel really uncomfortable to talk about.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–1:38
2
What is the purpose of “The Talk” and why is it more important during COVID?
1:38–6:08
3
How has remote learning increased kids’ exposure to online porn?
6:08–12:05
4
What signs should parents look for that indicate a child has seen inappropriate content?
12:05–18:14
5
How can parents start the conversation with an apology and what exact wording works?
18:14–24:33
6
What parental‑monitoring tools and software do experts recommend for younger kids?
24:33–31:06
7
How should parents talk about pornography with teenagers who may already be exposed?
31:06–32:45
Speakers
2 identifiedMore from Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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