TPP 305: Stuart Shanker on What Self-Regulation Is, Why It Matters, and How to Help Our Children (and Ourselves) Do It Better
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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But stress behavior is caused, it is not chosen. And by punishing a child for stress behavior, It is incredible how much harm you are doing.
Welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. I'm your host, Debbie Rieber. And welcome to the fall 2022 season of the podcast. I'm so excited to kick things off with a really just fantastic interview. For the first time on this show, I'm talking with Dr. Stuart Shanker, who I first learned about through my friend Seth Perler, as Stuart has been part of the TFO's Summit in years past. I love Stuart's message and recently devoured his book Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child and You Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life. And so I wanted to talk with Stuart to go deeper into that.
Fuck. In this episode, we talk about the ways in which the brain controls the levels of stress, the difference between self-regulation and self-control, and what stress behavior looks like versus misbehaving. Stuart also walks us through his five steps to self-reg and talks about the power of us as parents and caregivers and educators doing our own self regulation work so we can support the kids around us. Here's a little bit more about my guest. Dr. Stuart Schenker is a distinguished research professor emeritus of philosophy and psychology, the founder and visionary of the Merit Center, and self regulation. Global Inc. His book Calm, Alert and Learning: Classroom Strategies for Self-Regulation, which came out in 2012, is a top-selling educational publication in Canada.
He's also the author of the book we're talking about today, Self Reg, as well as Self Reg Schools, a handbook for educators, and his newest book Reframed, Self Reg for a Just Society. This is a great conversation. I hope you get a lot out of it. Before I get to that, I just want to once again welcome you to this fall season. I have a great lineup for you, including episodes on some topics we haven't covered extensively before on this show, like rejection, sensitive dysphoria, polyvagal theory, PDA, freeing your child from negative thinking, and much more. In Playback Fridays, we'll be back starting this Friday too, and that's where I dive back into the archives. archives and re-release a popular episode from the first few years of this show.
So don't forget to subscribe to Tilt Parenting wherever you listen to podcasts so you don't miss any of these episodes. Lastly, in addition to planning for and producing this upcoming season of the podcast, I've been busy on some other projects over the past few months. One of these is that I've updated my free seven day differently wired challenge. So if you're newer to Tilt Parenting and you haven't done this yet, I invite you to join nearly 4,000 other parents and caregivers and take the challenge. When you sign up, you'll get a super short video from me every day for seven days, highlighting one practical, actionable thing you can start doing right away to make a real challenge. change in the way you think, feel, and act in relation to your child.
You'll also get a mini downloadable workbook to keep track of your progress. And again, it's free. To sign up for the seven day differently wired challenge, just visit tiltparenting.com slash seven day. Thank you so much. Thanks for being here. Thanks for listening. And now here is my conversation with Stuart. Hey Stuart, welcome to the podcast.
Thank you very much, Debbie.
Feel like this is an overdue conversation. I was saying before we record that I probably first heard you speak through Seth Perler, who is a good friend. He's uh been on the show a lot talking about executive function. And so I've always really resonated with your message. I'd love if you could, you know, as a way to get into this, just take a few minutes and introduce yourself and your work to us in your own words.
Well, I ran a uh a very unusual kind of clinic at York University and in this clinic we had uh therapy on one side
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