TPP 421: A Bonus Conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker about Self-Regulation and Helping Our Children Successfully Engage with Life
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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children
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What is self‑regulation and why is it crucial for neurodivergent children?
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Hey there, it's Debbie. So I'm doing something different over this winter holiday break. Rather than release replay episodes, I'm gifting some bonus conversations that have never been made available to anyone outside of my differently wired club before. I love these conversations. I thought they were too powerful not to share. Each of them is kind of a thoughtful masterclass with a brilliant leader whose work and wisdom has a profound impact on the world. Our lives as parents of neurodivergent kids. In today's episode, we're revisiting a powerful and deeply supportive conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker, a leading expert on self-regulation and the author of Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child and You Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life.
And we have had Dr. Schenker on the show before, so you might have heard that, but this is a very different. Conversation. Dr. Schenker shares his warmth, compassion, and deep understanding of the challenges faced by neurodivergent kids and our families. Together, we explore the brain science behind self-regulation, the impact of stress on behavior, and practical strategies to help both kids and parents cultivate greater self-reflection and self-awareness. This is a conversation filled with insights and tools that will leave you feeling seen. and supported. It's been months since this club visit, and I'm still reflecting on and using what I learned from this incredible conversation. I'm so excited for you to listen and thankful to Dr.
Schenker for making it available to us. Also, these author and expert visits have a different vibe than my typical podcast interviews because the format and the length is less structured. And I host these special conversations every month as part of my differently wired club community. So If you enjoyed this conversation and you want more like it, definitely consider joining us. You can learn more and join any time by going to tildeparenting.com slash club. So now enjoy my conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker. I'm so pleased and honored to have Stuart Shanker here with us today. So the formalities. Stuart Shanker is a distinguished research professor, emoritis, emeritus I don't know how to say that, emeritus of philosophy and psychology.
Emeritus.
And there it is. Thank you. Okay. Thank you. The founder and visionary of the Merit Center Limited and Self Reg Global, Incorporated. Self-reg, How to Help Your Child and You Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life, which is the book we're discussing today and have read this month, has garnered enthusiastic reviews and media attention throughout North America. It's also been published in the UK, the United States, Poland, Germany, China, South Korea, Japan, the Netherlands. Georgia and the Czech Republic. His latest books are Self-Ranked Schools, a Handbook for Educators, and Reframed Self-Rank for a Just Society, which we talked about in the podcast actually a couple of years ago. Over the past decade, Stewart has served as an advisor on early child development to government organizations across Canada and the US and in countries around the world.
During this period, he became increasingly interested in the impact of excessive stress on child development and behavior. His five-step self-rank model, the Shankar Method, is a powerful process for understanding and managing stress in children, youth. and adults. He commits considerable time to bringing the research and science of self-ranked parents, early childhood educators, teachers, educational leaders, health practitioners, and communities through presentations, master classes, online courses, webinars, publications, social media and blogs, and also apparently
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is self‑regulation and why is it crucial for neurodivergent children?
0:00–10:01
2
How do heightened stress, maladaptive coping, and oxytocin deficits create the current anxiety epidemic?
10:01–19:56
3
What physiological signs tell us a child is stressed and how can parents detect them?
19:56–27:55
4
How can parents use oxytocin‑boosting activities (touch, voice, music) to calm a stress‑overloaded child?
27:55–36:44
5
What strategies help neurodivergent teens transition from parental co‑regulation to peer co‑regulation?
36:44–45:26
6
How can families manage sibling dynamics when one child’s stress triggers the other?
45:26–54:55
7
What resources and tools does the Tilt Parenting community offer for self‑regulation practice?
54:55–1:04:00
8
How long does it typically take to see lasting change with self‑regulation techniques?
1:04:00–1:05:01
Speakers
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