Help Me Be Me
Episodes
Ep 103: How to Keep Your Balance During Times of Life Chaos and Hardship
12 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who’s going through a stage in life when they are necessarily dealing with a shit-storm of really difficult responsibilities. Lik...
Audience Q&A: How to Build Positive Friendships
25 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends! This one’s about building healthy friendships and relationships and how do you know if a relationship is healthy or toxic. This one’s ...
Audience Q&A: Painful Infatuation, Feeling Empty & Lost, Needing Instant Friends
03 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I answer three different audience questions. The first, how to stop obsessing about a person after a single date – and the other per...
Ep 102: Why Won't He Sleep With Me? When Relationships Become Sexless
16 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is a request I got from a couple of female listeners, and I address their issue directly – so heads up, this is based on hetero relationships b...
Look Forward to the New Year – A Journal Reflection Exercise
26 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Listen to this one with your journal in-hand! This is similar to the one I gave last year, but it’s basically a super fun journal exercise to help y...
Ep 101: How to Find Your Passion & Choose a Career Path
10 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In honor of the new year, this is all about finding your passion – facing feelings of anxiety and anticipation about the future and also what factor...
Audience Q&A's: How to Trust Your Gut + Stop Focusing on Expectations of Others
17 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, in this episode I answer two questions. One: "How do you trust your gut if you struggle with anxiety and perfectionistic overthinking - if...
Ep 100: How to Deal with Getting an STD
03 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is coping with the aftermath of finding out they have an STD and what that means for you as an individual. There are some great...
Audience Q&A's: How to Deal with the Pain of Future Loss + Repeatedly Being Broken Up With
18 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode answering two questions – the first: how do you deal with real fears and awareness of imminent pain, for example – the pain of ...
Ep 99: Constructive Criticism: How to Grow a Thicker Skin as a Creative Person
27 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How to take constructive criticism well, specifically, when it comes to creative endeavors. That means hearing it, taking it in and doing something w...
Unsure About Having Kids: Help Making Big Life Decisions
11 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up for ambivalence about a big life decision – like leaving a relationship, trying a new career or having a baby! This is a power-up...
My Life Hurts: When A Problem is Really, Really Bad
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is about when life becomes unmanageable – for example there’s a condition that threatens your sanity and it gets to the point that you are in...
Healing a Possibly Scarring Experience Into a Resilience Booster
12 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
A shorthand version of changing a trauma or hurt from a scar into a medal. I’ve covered this in other episodes but I thought it would be helpful in ...
Ep 98: Resilience for Codependents and Those Experiencing Adult Hardships
31 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When we don’t feel safe, we tend to panic. Especially if you lack the innate knowledge that you will be okay. So when external events happen that ta...
Ep 97: Improv Therapy- Being Awesomely Yourself w/ Billy Merritt of Upright Citizens Brigade Theater
06 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Today I have to honor of speaking with Billy Merritt, actor, writer, improviser– and one of the founding fathers of The Swarm at The Upright Citizen...
Audience Q&A's: What To Do if You’re Stuck and Passionless, Stuck and Hopeless, Stuck and Friendless
28 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, in this episode I answer 3 questions: what to do if you’re stuck and you can’t figure out what you’re passionate about. What to do w...
The Self-Work Vortex: Why Am I Still Unhappy?
11 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
It’s hard to be yourself – it takes work. There’s a lot of emotional and thought clutter that gets in the way – especially when you are so who...
Audience Q&A’s: Obsessed About Ex Moving On Soul-Mates + When to Start Dating Again
24 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I answer 3 audience questions: What do you do if you can’t stop focusing on your ex and whether or not they’re with someone new? D...
Ep 96: Sibling Rivalry – Why We Can’t Stop Fighting, Blaming & Resenting
07 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who has a super tumultuous relationship with a sibling, one that that defies all logic. It’s to give you context for a lot of com...
Brain Clutter: Creating Mental and Spiritual Space for Yourself
29 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
A practice of getting closer to your original self. Analysis, ambivalence, endless "stuff." Checking, pursuing, not knowing if any of it is right. Whe...
Ep 95: Forgiveness: How to let go of hurt and anger, and why to do it at all
09 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiveness is a monumental practice because it really guides a lot of what you believe in your life -about the world, love, relationships and also yo...
Ep 93: Relationship Fight Loops and Distance: Why We Lose Access to Intimacy
19 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Contrary to popular belief, fights are not better talked out to the bitter end and happiness and intimacy are not the result of more loving couples. I...
Preventative PMS: How to protect those you love and balance your bod
07 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is for those who suffer gnar PMS. I know girls who don’t go out when they’re PMS-ing because of how dangerous it is for others. It can be con...
Audience Q&A's: Obsessed Exs, Depressed Partners and Getting Ghosted
02 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, this is a quickie Q&A episode answering three questions: What do you do when an ex keeps trying to come back into your life?! How do you d...
Ep 92: Confidence in Love - A Core Workout
18 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s say you’re not confident, which leads your to focus on others and accommodate their needs solely. Or you have been tipped off balance becaus...
Ep 91: Rules of Courtship, Dating & Sealing the Deal w/ Alicia Marder
07 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is an interview with my bestie and go-to love guru, Alicia Marder. We'll discuss dating and courtship and how to demonstrate your value and "seal...
Ep 89: How to Deal with Emotional Dysregulation with Dr. Sharon Flynn
03 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I interview Dr. Sharon Flynn PhD on what dysregulation is, what it’s from and some ways you can treat it. When emotions overtake you and make you un...
How to deal with rejection
19 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
If you got dumped or you didn’t get your dream job, here are some tools and insights to get you back on the wagon of awesomeness. Getting rejected i...
Ep 88: What to do when you can’t speak your truth
06 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode that I’ve been wanting to write for a while – because it’s something that reminds me of a very confusing and difficult time f...
Holiday Reflection Exercise: glance back on your year
23 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This is something to do with a warm blanket and your journal, kinda like a date with yourself. Have your journal handy if you can – and your iphone ...
Audience Q+A's: Guilt, ish w/ family, unfollowing ex's, dating anxiety & universal stuckness
06 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! In this “experiment” I answer several questions you’ve asked – quick-fire style! Like it? Let me know! What to do when the universe ...
Ep 87: What to do When You Have Feelings You Don't Want to Feel
28 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
It can be something that sets up a chain reaction: first the feelings of hate or desire or insecurity, then the shame, then the guilt. Then the loop t...
Hate relief: How to stop hating and how to heal from a hate crime
12 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
For those who have been assaulted in some way by hatred – perhaps from a person you though you were close to. Maybe a peer or a stranger on the stre...
Ep 86: Love Anxiety - How to Deal with Fear Forecasting in New Relationships
02 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s all about the anxiety and stress that you might feel as soon as you end up in a good relationship. The clinginess might be painful, almos...
Gratitude Joy-State Powerup
21 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Get into the positive, grateful state where you are the most rational. This is to get you smiling and blow your mind a little bit. Share it with someo...
Ep 85: How to Stop Bad Relationship Loops
19 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
When we promise ourselves that we’re never ever going to do the thing we hate, again. Maybe that's the thing your parents did, or the thing we alrea...
Ep 84: Therapy 101 - What Kind of Help to Get, Why + How
07 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
An interview with Dr. Sharon Flynn, PhD all about therapy and how it works. How long does therapy take? How do I find a therapist? What's the differen...
30 Days of Gratitude Challenge
04 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hey peeps, this is a practice to help you retrain your brain out of a negative focus. I just started it and I invite you to do the same: 1 negative-in...
Ep 83: Balanced Goal Setting - Enjoying Life While Achieving
19 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, this is really about something I’ve been experiencing lately which is the great energy and ability that comes from doing things that are...
Chronic Fomo: A Recalibration Exercise
03 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
It's easy to get sucked into constant self-measuring and with that, discontent. This is a recalibration for your focus - if you are suffering from FOM...
Ep 82: When We Lose Friends to Love - the Pairing-Off Process that is Adulthood
27 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Change is tough. New relationships shift old ones. This is for you if someone close to you is falling in love – or changing their priorities. Maybe ...
College Essay Rough Draft C, or Why Therapy is Worth It
23 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
**Warning might make you sad! It's a story that will ground you to the earth and the scope of life, more than make you laugh. With that...This is the ...
Be Alive! Enjoy Being Simply - Yourself
15 Aug 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is a mid-dance-party mini power-up episode and my invitation to you to please join me. Because you need to get out of "normal" and just...
Ep 81: Stress Eating and the Difference Between Good Stress and Bad Stress
31 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This was going to be a power-up then I started researching and it turned into a full-length episode. So Jessica – this one’s for you. Ho...
Ep 80: I Want My Ex Back - Best Practices Toward Loving Outcomes
19 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps, this is a cheat of an episode in that it’s about how to get closest to getting your ex back via supporting yourself. There are no cheats t...
A Grounding Talk for Confronting What Feels Impossible
11 Jul 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up episode for anyone facing change that feels too hard or too painful. Take heart and remind yourself that you will do what you need ...
Ep 79: In Living Color: Self-Examination Exercises to Get More Out of Experiences
27 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This is all about how to get the most out of your capacity and your life experiences as well as how to navigate the painful stuff. I want to talk abou...
Grief & Deep Sadness - a meditation exercise for releasing and passing pain
10 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
A power-up episode for anyone dealing with the pain of sorrow of grief and they don’t know where to put the painful feelings. This is a new meditati...
I Am So Upset!!! (Anger Fixation Relief - Part Deux)
02 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi loves, this is a more immediate version of the Anger Fixation Relief Power-Up. This one is designed more for if you’re in the moment of an angry ...
Ep 78: Codependency: I Need to Find Someone Who Will Make Me Whole
01 Jun 2016
Contributed by Lukas
It’s really hard to stop yourself from helping someone out, doing it for them, giving your time and energy, saying what you said you wouldn’t do a...
Ep 77: Something's Wrong: When Worry, Hurt, Stress and Sadness Make You Stuck
18 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Oh shit. This is bad. I’m not wrong, they’re wrong. Ouch this hurts. I wish this wasn’t this way. Why does everyone hate me? I hate everyone. I ...
When Life Gives You a Wedgie and Smashes Your Confidence
18 May 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps, this is a little power-up reflection exercise for anyone who has just had the wind taken out of them by a life gut-punch. Whether you lost a...
Anger Fixation Relief: A gratitude reflection exercise
26 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
I did this myself and it worked for my so I wanted to offer it to you! This is a little refocusing exercise to help you let go of anger and resent - e...
Ep 76: Dirty Tactics: When Someone Uses Manipulation to Make You Feel Crazy
23 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This is also known as gas-lighting – based on a Hitchcock film where Ingrid Bergman was made to feel crazy by her husband. What I am going to talk a...
Ep 75: WTF Happened? When Great Relationships Suddenly Turn Bad
01 Apr 2016
Contributed by Lukas
How good relationships turn into bad relationships, seemingly out of nowhere. Whether that’s with fights that ensue endlessly, or one partner sudden...
Ep 74: Self-Sabotage: Why We Betray Ourselves and Destroy Our Relationships
13 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
For those who can’t stop trying to convince themselves they’re bad with self-destructive actions. This one is for Nikki. Why do we destroy relatio...
The Invisible Wall Blocking You From Change
06 Mar 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Why Can’t I Change? Why Can’t I Reach My Goal? Hi friends, this is a power-up for anyone who wants a change and has wanted it for a long time, bu...
How to Be There: A Simple Way to Make Life More Meaningful
26 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up episode all about how to be more present in your everyday life – specifically when it comes to your human interactions. This is ...
Ep 73: Love & Honesty: What We Hide and Why
23 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Why sometimes people aren’t honest with us and sometimes we’re not honest with ourselves. This one’s written for a person who contacted me who’...
An Introduction to "The Break-Up Album" (in honor of Valentine's Day)
11 Feb 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, in honor of Valentine’s Day I wanted to share the introduction to “The Break-Up Album” my podcast album coming out later this year. ...
Ep 72: Toxic Love: I Need Her, Don’t Leave Me, I Can’t Live Without Him
28 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Love shouldn’t hurt. It shouldn’t feel like it’s your lifeline – that you will fall into a million pieces if someone else chooses to break up....
A Gratitude New Year Reflection Practice, To Do With a Friend or Solo
18 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi lovies! This is a Power Up to do with a friend, your hubby, or just solo with a pen and paper. Caveat: This leans more heavily into the self-help g...
Ep 71: Creating Your Worth: How to Ask for a Raise and Interview With the Best Outcome
16 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi there! This is the second half of episode 70, about bettering your outward-facing self to get more of what you want and deserve. This one is all ab...
Ep 70: Weak and Insecure: How to Grow Your Strength and Confidence at Work and in Life
03 Jan 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! It is moi, Sarah May. This is Part 1 of a two part episode. Part 2 will be solely focused on how to ask for a raise and how to tell someone ...
A Simple Reflection Exercise for Clarity and Awareness
26 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Heads up, this is recorded on my iPhone, so forgive me, it’s not the best quality – it’s a post-yoga reflection that I just had to record for yo...
Ep 69: How to deal with family who are unwelcoming and mean
18 Dec 2015
Contributed by Lukas
I know the holidays are just a few days away– which can bring up a ton of uncomfortable feelings especially if you have not-so-loving-family members...
Ep 68: Burnout – How to Deal With Creative and Motivational Exhaustion
29 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
It’s no shocker that working all night and all day with a million different deadlines can lead even the most inspired and motivated individuals to b...
Ep 67: Living As A Fraud: When you have a voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough
14 Nov 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Are you guided by a belief that something is wrong with you? That you’re not good enough, and that you are fooling everyone – pretending you’re ...
Ep 66: How to Use Compassion to Rise Above the Hate & Intolerance of Others
30 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
We all want to be nice and caring people – because it feels good. It rewards us. However we are human and sometimes it can be a challenge to stay in...
Episode 65: Stuck, Depressed and Full of Self-Hate
25 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone stuck in a place of self-hate and inaction. Someone in a shitty place in life, depressed and hopeless: hating on themselves, where ...
Episode 64: Trivial Couple Fights: For Getting Stuck in Battles of the Technicalities
10 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
How to stop trivial couple arguments that involve endless semantics debates – the ones usually started by faulty communication that are pointless an...
Episode 63: How to Love – Giving to Your Relationship in the Best Way Possible
01 Oct 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for people in a loving relationship and you’re working to give love BETTER to that person. I have a lot of tools in this one – many of the...
A Teaspoon of Happy
16 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is a different kind of power-up episode to inspire a positive state of life. It’s a simple one that I offer you as you begin your weekend. And ...
Episode 62: Where We Hold Pain: How Negative Emotions Get Stuck in Our Bodies
11 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Just like stress can cause you to get a tight knot in the muscles of your back, so too can other parts of your body hold tight to things like fear or ...
What's the Rush?
09 Sep 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is an emotional power-up episode for those who hate to be bored, who have a constant habit of hurrying through life. For increasing min...
Episode 61: Frustration and Dissatisfaction: I’m Not Where I Want to Be and That Sucks.
26 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re in a place of constant frustration with your current life – wanting to be somewhere in the future or wishing life was better, like it wa...
Episode 60: Crankiness: For Anger, Meanness and Chronic Negativity
17 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Are you in a state of “I hate this” or “people are morons” or are you just generally over something about life? Well this episode is for anger...
Emotional Heaviness: Releasing Sorrow, Stress and Emotional Muck
12 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, this is an emotional cleansing power up episode for clearing sorrow and stress and emotional muck. It's best to listen to it while you tak...
Episode 59: Ex-Obsessed: Emotionally Devastated and Driving Yourself Insane
04 Aug 2015
Contributed by Lukas
For when you’re in the break-up zone that causes you to obsess over the person you just broke up with. This is for anyone who has just been broken u...
Episode 58: The Importance of Being Present
23 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is an episode with a short meditation in part 3. It covers why soothing your body and reducing the chatter in your brain is the key to ...
Episode 57: The Average Case of Body Dysmorphia - Ugliness In the Eyes of the Beholder
11 Jul 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s for planet earth. We all have an internal self portrait –and that is created by the way we feel about who we are. There are SOOOOO many...
Episode 56: How to get over it: How to stop old conflicts from stunting your present life
29 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for people who are aware of when old issues are entering their present and they know they don’t want that to be happening. Our old memories ...
Episode 55: Jealousy – How to Rise Above Your Weakest Self
19 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Jealousy, or a perception of your insecurities come to life. How does it sneak into your mind? Your darkest thoughts in your most fearful voice begin ...
Episode 54: Stuck in Survival Mode – When Worry Takes Over Your Life
08 Jun 2015
Contributed by Lukas
For when you can’t stop feeling worried or obsessed with what is threatening your stability in life – a stress response based on past traumas or r...
Episode 53: Love Languages: Overcoming Emotional Baggage So You Can Better Receive and Give Love
31 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who has conflicts with someone they care about who wants to figure out ways to get out of those conflicts fast and productively. It...
Episode 52: How to Stop Negative Thoughts
10 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about noticing negative thought patterns when they’re happening. What are negative thoughts? Bad habits. They’re not You – they’...
Episode 50: How To Break Away From A Narcissist Relationship
04 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for a person who filled out my survey – I don’t know your name, but this is for you! I hope it helps. You asked how to break out of the vi...
Episode 51: We Are The Slashies - 5 Ways to Grow as a Working Creative
04 May 2015
Contributed by Lukas
What is a slashie? A creative person who knows that their day job isn't their real job: a busboy/actor; waitress/screenwriter/photographer; singer/pro...
Episode 49: Emotional Eating: How to Tackle Negative Soothing Habits Tied to Food
24 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional Eating in this episode translates as negative soothing habits around food that relate to specific emotional states. So, depending on your dy...
Manufacturing the Capacity for Happiness
15 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is a little power-up episode about creating more joy-filled and memorable moments in your life. Happiness is a thought-habit that for many of us,...
Episode 48: Busyness Junkies: Breaking the Habit of Stress and Over-Scheduling
14 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is about the value of stepping back from your preoccupations to do more nothing. Busyness is a cultural habit that is also an addiction. Physiolo...
Nego-Habit Shift: Make One Small Change to Make a Massive Difference
04 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is a power-up episode to create one small positive change in yourself starting today. I want you to look at one thing in your life that...
Episode 47: What to Look For in a Therapist
04 Apr 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, This is my personal list of what to look for when choosing a therapist, plus a few basic tactics to attack the task. Take what helps and l...
Episode 46: Going Nowhere: Stuck in a Bad Relationship
30 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is currently romantically involved with someone who is not treating you well and you are taking it, and it hurts. You know it’...
Personal Happy Place: For When You're Stuck in a Place in Life You Don't Want to Be
23 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Hi loves, this is to use anytime this week or this month – it’s a little tool for regaining control of the wheel of your person, in the face of en...
Episode 45: What's the Work in Self-Work - Sizing Up the Personal Growth Ahead
16 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
What is self work? It’s acknowledging something in yourself that needs to be addressed for the sake of growing. It’s what you decide to do when yo...
Episode 44: Personal Priorities Pond - A Self-Esteem Building Exercise
13 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Personal Lily-pads: A Self-Esteem Building Exercise Around Priorities Hi peeps, this is an exercise for you to use to improve your personal alignment ...
Episode 43: Parents Just Don’t Understand: for the pain caused by parents who didn’t do their job
06 Mar 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Your relationship with your parents can be attached to a lot of big feelings of hurt or anger because it’s such a major relationship in your life! Y...
Episode 42: Prison of Thoughts-Recognizing the Ego That Has Blocked You from Happiness
23 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, yes, this is a melodramatic title but it’s because this is a big deal and it’s causing millions of people to suffer from a whole slew of dif...
Episode 41: What Do They Think: How to Stop Obsessing About Other People’s Thoughts
21 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Has it ever happened to you – that you do something nice for someone else and they don’t respond and so part of you is worried they didn’t like ...