Help Me Be Me
Episodes
Ep 178: Inner Shine: Curating joyful energy + a sense of aliveness
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who with a tendency toward a lack perspective – maybe you default to a survival mode of unconscious “doing” and because of th...
Ep 177: Couples Counseling – when to do it + the ways it can help
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone considering attending couples counseling and you are unsure of what to look for or perhaps you are hesitant about going because you...
Ep 176: The Power of Openness– An interview with author Pam Grout
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is my (fan-girl) interview with Pam Grout – author, amazing human being & teacher of love and positivity. She has written 20 books including E-...
Ep 175: Non-Stop Seeking – For feeling empty, never enough and unfulfilled
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A meditation on the feeling of non-stop seeking and grasping toward things that exist on the outside – versus asking from the inside, how can my lif...
Ep 174: Relationship Ambivalence: Stuck in fight loops + wanting change
21 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For anyone who perhaps is negotiating standing up for yourself and also accommodating your relationship to make it peaceful and loving, and unsure of ...
Ep 173: Owning Yourself - Being fully embodied and unapologetically yourself
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What does it take to own yourself? To be fully confident in your voice and unapologetically yourself in all situations. I think it takes being deeply ...
Ep 172: Reflecting on Your Relationship: When Things Require Some Work
25 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for anyone who is at the cusp of counseling or is negotiating a power struggle in their relationship. I think for a lot of people i...
Ep 171: An Introduction to Dream Work
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dream work is much more personal and specific to you – it’s powerful and amazing. And once you unlock the meaning behind one dream, I think you wi...
Ep 170: Inner Listening – Curating Private Psychic Space
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode aimed at helping you tune in to what you think and feel and becoming aware of the external pressures that may be hindering your cre...
Ep 169: Know Thyself - Moving through fear + ambivalence + growing self-trust
12 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Fear is a state of mind. This is for you if you are currently doing any self-work and trying to grow your confidence especially when it comes to overt...
Ep 168: Loving Yourself Enough to Let Someone Go
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for emotional pain related to leaving a relationship that is not working. This is really a follow up to the “bad relationship” ...
EP 167: Moving Out of Jealousy + Comparison - How to Let Creativity Unfold
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode all about how to move out of a state of comparison – one that prevents us from being a creative, embodied self. I would also say ...
Ep 166: Grounding + Growing Through Ritual – An interview with Becca Piastrelli
01 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, this is my interview with Becca Piastrelli, author of a new book entitled, “Root and Ritual - Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage,...
Ep 165: Curating Life - Stepping back from thought patterns + elevating our energy
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We choose our life with our energy. What are you choosing with your energy, currently? In this episode I am going to invite you to become conscious in...
Ep 164: Bad Relationship – Dating a person who is cheating + lying, feeling powerless
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is in a bad relationship and they suspect the other person is cheating or lying and you don’t know what to do about it. Maybe...
Ep 163: Parents + Family Who are Emotionally Hurtful
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How to deal with parents who are emotionally unsupportive, unloving, say mean things, are manipulative or compare you to others. The goal of this epis...
Ep 162: Chasing Beauty – A painful fixation on our looks
04 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for anyone who feels like they are obsessed with being prettier, younger, something-er, in some external way, and you feel that it ...
Ep 161: Building a Vision
21 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is targeted at you having a vision of a future life that is beautiful and rewarding. Seeing it clearly. And not being embarrassed about g...
Ep 160: Holiday Feels – Ways to Stay Centered in the Face of Holiday Stress
09 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who needs some help to navigate difficult feelings and situations that come up around the holidays – whether that be dealing with...
Ep 159: Paths Back to Worthiness
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
To listen to when you start to get into that energy of unaccomplished/ugly/stupid/fat/alone/I don’t like myself for fill-in-the-blank reason. This i...
Ep 158: Hearing the Change You Want
09 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is a super short episode because it’s aimed at a very specific reflection exercise. It came about because one thing that I have noticed in my O...
How to grow your sense of self
09 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is a reflection episode all about how to foster originality and grow your sense of selfhood (and self-love). There’s something that happens whe...
A reflection on play and feeling fully alive
27 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is a sensory kind of reflection on feeling more tied to your sense of wonder and aliveness. An invitation to anyone who gets into a default of do...
Ep 157: Lauri Burns of The Teen Project: Growing Your Intuition + Sense of Spirituality
26 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is an interview I do with longtime friend Lauri Burns, founder of The Teen Project. It’s all about that little voice that guides us from within...
Ep 156: Emotional Scripts - When Family Emotional Patterns Repeat
13 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is really about when we start to enact the emotions, fears, losses, and wounds of someone in a previous generation – be that a parent, a parent...
Ep 155: In Love With an Addict - Codependent and obsessed with someone else’s using
29 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
For those in the throes of an obsession with an addict or high on your codependency – maybe you’re in love with someone and they start using or yo...
Ep 154: How to Set Boundaries with Family + Loved Ones
15 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is a follow-up episode to the previous boundaries episode a few weeks ago. It’s to listen to when you are in need of help in setting boundaries...
Ep 153: Letting Go of an Addiction – Smoking, drugs or something else that’s killing you
01 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who wants to quit something but is terrified of trying again – or feels hopeless about it. Or overwhelmed. Maybe you’ve already...
Ep 152: Good Boundaries – What they are, how to set them + how to be self-loving
18 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode about good boundaries: how to set them as well as WHY to set them. You can think about having one loose boundary as having a leak i...
Ep 151: Easy Does It – Dealing with a stressful life
03 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We have experiences that imprint the physical responses we have to stressors in our life – big or small. So if you are feeling a sense of inner chao...
Ep 150: Painful Comparison - Why it’s happening and how to find relief
21 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is fixating on what is better about someone else and devaluing yourself. The flux that is your own perceived value. It can beco...
Ep 149: How to Move On Without Closure
07 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How to move on if you didn’t get any explanation as to why someone is ending a relationship. Maybe that’s a romantic relationship. Maybe that’s ...
Ep 148: Stuck in a Codependent and Bad Relationship – Tools for strength-building
22 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for starting to work your way out of a codependent relationship. When you’re in a relationship that really doesn’t make you fee...
Ep 147: Our Words: Becoming Aware of the Stories We Tell Ourselves and Others
08 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is focused on becoming more aware and also deliberate in your words – curating a more positive and empowering story for yourself and for those ...
Ep 146: Love Reset: For when reactivity and oversensitivity takeover healthy relationships
25 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Or, "It's not about you." There are all sorts of unconscious processes that occur in individuals and they show up in our relationships. Usually, if we...
Ep 145: Regaining Confidence and Autonomy When Feeling Clingy + Small
11 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Tools for regaining a sense of autonomy and self-confidence if you find that you are clinging and overly sensitive to the opinions of others. So if yo...
Ep 144: Creative Fertility + Inspiration - Tools For Creative Burnout
25 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Burnout shows up as a loss of meaning – it might feel like everything is hard, or pointless, or not worth doing. So if you are experiencing somethin...
Ep 143: Fostering Enoughness - Tools for combating envy
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling we are good enough and that our lives and decisions are valid and make sense – so that we can move into an active and inspired state. This i...
Ep 142: Self-Dialoguing - How to Do Self-Work in a Journal
25 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You can do a lot of great work on yourself with a journal. If you want to try and work through a problem, or you want to start a journal but don’t k...
Ep 141: Imposter Phenomenon - Feeling Like You Don’t Deserve the Good in Your Life
06 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When You Can’t Own Your Successes. This is an episode about Imposter Phenomenon and what to do if you cannot own the successes you have in your life...
Ep 140: Dealing With Loneliness - Tools for Mid-Pandemic
16 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What to do if you’re feeling lonely right now, mid-pandemic. This is for anyone who is suffering because of social isolation. Maybe you are single a...
Working in a Vacuum: Inspiration for when you feel groundless
29 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who has to self-motivate - maybe you're in the in-between times of employment or you’re trying to get something off the ground th...
Ep 139: Comedian Sam Tallent on How to Create Art for Joy + Being True to Yourself
12 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This is my interview with author and stand-up comic, Sam Tallent. His new book– Running the Light, is fiction– it’s fantastic and it’s availab...
Grieving the loss of time
31 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Finding comfort in the face of a year lost and ways to alter your expectations moving forward. Heads up – this is a reshare of a previously recorded...
Self-Help for people who hate self-help
15 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends! This is a short episode all about what the theme of this show means to me. So if you're struggling and you don't know why you keep blowing...
When Life Feels Limited - Open a Window
08 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a little inspirational power-up episode for anyone who is feeling stuck and uninspired. This was something I wrote 5 years ago but I felt like...
Ep 138: Negotiating Messy Family Relationships
25 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It can painful and confusing to deal with all the feels that come up around family, especially when certain members of your family don’t get along. ...
Seriously Burned Out
10 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up episode for anyone who feels exhausted and burned out by their week. Maybe you are multitasking a lot and feeling super overwhelmed...
Ep 137: Fight Loops in Relationships - Finding Empowerment
27 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is finding themselves in predictable fight loops with their partner or any other close relationship. Maybe you are frustrated t...
Don’t Forget Yourself: Keeping Lightness in Your Life
13 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up (shorter) episode for anyone who has been living in a purely reactive state where they are going through the motions/dealing with t...
Ep 136: Rock Bottom - Where to Go From Shame
29 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who wakes up and feels like a different person. One who they really don’t like. And you can’t do anything about it. Maybe you d...
Ep 135: Empty on the Inside - Attention-Seeking on the Outside
15 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How being overly identified with what others think is tied to a lack of self-love. This is for anyone who doesn’t trust themselves and generally doe...
Ep 134: How to Stop Insecurities From Hurting Your Relationship
01 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you have insecurities that come up and cause you to push your partner away or cling too closely, this is for you. Maybe you find that you are actin...
When the Narcissist Contacts You Out of the Blue
18 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who has escaped a relationship with a narcissist and they reach out to you, out of the blue – and how to navigate that situation....
Ep 133: Stuck + Ambivalent: When You Can’t Make a Decision or Let Go
04 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
One of the hardest things to do is give up or accept a loss, even if we are unhappy and have been for a really long time. This is for anyone stuck in ...
Ep 132: Not Good Enough: Obsessing About Our Faults + What to Do About It
20 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode about feeling “not enough” and constantly fixating on an identity that is lower, less-than, lazy, fill-in-the-blank negative ad...
Ep 131: Working as a Creative + Sharing Yourself With the World
20 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode about whether to make your creative passion into your job and how to create for public consumption, especially if you are a sensiti...
Feeling Unstable: For Those Having a Hard Time Emotionally Processing
04 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for those dealing with a fragile emotional state and they don’t know what to do with themselves. Who I am speaking to here are th...
Audience Q&A’s: On the Fence About Having Kids (part 2)
22 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode that answers questions from the audience about fears around having kids, and since I am about to give birth to my second child, I t...
Ep 130: Clinging Desperately to Relationships – Even When They’re Not Great
09 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for if you have a painful obsession with an ex or a pervasive habit of fixating on relationships: they’re more important than job...
Ep 129: Caregiver Burnout + Secondary Trauma: When the suffering of others gets to you
21 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are one of those people who are trying to make the world a better place and that process is taking a lot out of you – causing you vicarious t...
Ep 128 : Totally Overwhelmed: Keeping Calm + Thinking Rationally
07 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode dedicated to self-regulation, if you are in and out of a state of panic, you get lost in your emotions, or perhaps even experiencin...
Ep 127: Dealing with Overwhelming Stress, Anxiety + Worry due to COVID-19
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is anyone struggling with anxiety and worry right now – maybe you’re having a hard time being quarantined, maybe you are now out of work, or ...
Ep 126: Problems Oversharing in New Relationships
10 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode all about oversharing when you start a new relationship – consciously or unconsciously, and when that negatively affects your lif...
Audience Q&A’s: Dealing with Rejection
01 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I am going to tackle a question from the audience (how to deal with rejection) and then go right into some tools! How to deal with re...
Ep 125: Base-Level Self: When You're Acting Like a Person You Hate
12 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode all about when you are your base level self. When you are rude, hurtful, intentionally mean, aggressive or difficult with others. O...
Ep 124: Living From the Neck Up - When You’re Not as Happy as You “Should be”
29 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode all about when we start living life from our routine of “should’s” versus stopping to ask ourselves whether or not we are hap...
Ep 123: Giving Up on Change + Feeling Stuck
13 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode for anyone who feels like self-help and steps toward personal growth haven’t worked for them and they likely won’t. Maybe that’...
A Self-Awareness Reflection as You Start the New Year
05 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a set of journal prompts for you to reflect on as you orient yourself for the year and reflect back on the years previous. This is what I have...
Ep 122: Shame and Trauma: Unseen Bruises that Define Self
23 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Shame and trauma cannot be separated – they are incredibly interwoven. The reason I created this episode is shame is virtually unavoidable if you’...
Ep 121: Inner Dialogues: When Others Trigger Us + We Get Stuck in Our Heads
11 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
If you are one of those people who debates things in your mind endlessly, shuts down, isolates – this is for you. This is for you only if you find t...
Ep 120: Study Your Inner Scripts + Negative Self-Talk
26 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
By scripts I am talking self-judgment. Negative self-talk. The things we perceive inside our heads – that tell us how to act and dictate what we bel...
Ep 119: Emotional Spending + self-soothing habits that hurt
18 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is an episode about the self-soothing habits that we have that do not help us. For some that is online shopping. For some that is eating. And for...
Ep 118: Being Treated Like Crap – What to do, how much to take
17 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone has a person in their life who is mistreating them. For example, let’s say you have an in-law who treats you like a punching bag,...
Ep 117: Self-Care + Mental Maintenance: Building Your House Right
16 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This was inspired by a friend of mine saying, “I’m not too many steps from a crazy person.” That really resonated with me – because it’s tru...
Ep: 116 Chronic Emptiness & Depression: The Body’s Way of Mourning Life
20 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends!! Apologies for the lag in postings…I have had some super intense hours as of late. But it will lighten up very soon. This is an episode ...
Tools for Self-Regulation: Staying in the “Chill Zone”
10 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps, this is a way to make sure you’re keeping yourself functioning at an optimal level – and not getting stuck in a stressed/triggered state...
Ep 115: How to deal with people who trigger you
31 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who get triggered around a family member or other person in their life, but you have decided that you want to continue to be around...
Self-Advocacy: Tips for Growth in the Workplace
08 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ways to represent your best self in work and in life. Tips for asking for a raise, evolving within your workplace and growing your confidence professi...
Ep 114: Painful Perfectionism
20 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You might not realize that you are a perfectionist. You might just think you have a high bar and believe in excellence. A lot of perfectionists think ...
Managing Stress & Avoiding Burnout
01 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is a powerup for anyone who is burned out or about to be burned out – currently getting super overwhelmed by their schedule and they’re start...
Ep 113: How to Stop Being a Controller
04 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who is struggling with attempting to control others and/or obsessing about things in their own life, for example predicting future ...
Ep 112: Dating Anxiety – How to deal when your brain stops working
15 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone out there who is dating and they are struggling with letting go of the people who don’t text you back. It’s also for anyone who...
Ep 111: How to Tell if You’re Dating a Narcissist
27 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like you lost all power and autonomy in your new relationship? Are you always wrong, apologizing, groveling? Does it feel like you’re on...
Ep 110: Owning Your Power - A New Years Reflection Exercise
10 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
A reflection process for guiding your life versus your life living you. Happy New Year! I wanted to invite all of you to do a check in with yourself a...
Aud Q&A’s: How to Stick to a Breakup When You Feel Weak and Confused
19 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is a combo Q&A episode all about how to deal with the pain and courage needed to deal with a breakup. Four people had questions about leaving a r...
Audience Q&A's: How to Deal with Self-Doubt Around Applying for Jobs
30 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I answer the audience question: Do you any tips on what to do about "social anxiety" around applying for a new job? I get overwhelmed...
Audience Q&A: Questioning Worth & Life Decisions
20 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, in this Q&A episode I answer just one question from a college student about how to accept yourself when you're not feeling confident in li...
Ep 109: Breaking Up with Ed - overcoming a binge-eating disorder
31 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is a biggie, and the subject is not simple - however, I am going to try and chip off a small piece of the iceberg that is the issue of disordered...
Detaching From Ego & Connecting to Higher Self
24 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is a power-up episode just to invite you all to become familiar with the mind machine. The “computer” that helps us, keeps us driven and safe...
Ep 108: Ghosting – Why’d it happen & what to do if it happens to you
03 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is for the person who got ghosted, not the person who ghosts. Contrary to how it feels, a lot of thought can go into ghosting. It could be someth...
Ep 107: Kicking a Toxic Love - Relationship Withdrawals
12 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who’s in the throws of getting over a really toxic and yet, addictive relationship. I would otherwise call it the rock bottom par...
21 Days of Happiness Challenge
29 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is an oldy but a goody. I posted this on my blog like 6 years ago but since someone requested, I thought I would throw it out again and...
The Self-Care Tools I Use the Most(Currently)
15 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, this is a special power-up episode – it’s basically a list of my favorite and most frequently used tools as of late. I’m just going ...
Ep 106: Fear of Intimacy + Commitment
29 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about why people are afraid of intimacy and commitment – and I do it for both sides of the relationship: the fearers and the ...
Audience Q&A’s: Partner With Boundary Issues + Unrequited Love
04 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends, today I answer two questions – the first is about dealing with a partner who has boundary issues with a person who is infatuated with th...
Ep 105: Inner Unworthiness + Self-Judgment
09 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is for anyone who feels not good enough, like a failure. Maybe you feel like you wasted your life, money, time, heart, career, 20’s, 30’s, fi...
Audience Q&A’s: What to do - BF cheating on Grindr + Ghosted after job loss
22 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Today I answer two audience questions: the first from a guy who caught his BF sexting on Grindr, and he doesn’t know how to move forward. The second...
Ep 104: Messy Loss: How to approach the death of someone you've had lots of conflict with
04 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is all about how to deal with the loss of a person who has been very difficult in your life: the pros and cons of getting “closure” and if th...
Curbing Smartphone Addiction & FOMO
25 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi peeps! This is a “Digital Diet Challenge” all about creating mental space for yourself and checking any harmful habits you might have around sm...