You asked your partner to do something, they said they'd do it… and they didn't. And now you're frustrated, wondering if your partner really cares or if you're asking for too much. If this dynamic feels familiar, you're not alone — and it's not because your partner is a jerk. In most relationships, missed follow-through has far more to do with unmet needs, unclear communication, or shifting capacity than a lack of love. This episode is Part 2 of my series, Common Communication Patterns That Keep Couples Stuck — and How to Get Unstuck. Today, we explore 5 compassionate reasons your partner might say "yes" and then not follow through — and how you can respond in ways that create closeness rather than conflict. You'll learn how to make requests that actually land, invite honest yes's and no's, and build (and rebuild!) agreements that support both people's needs. By the end, you'll walk away with practical tools, deeper understanding, and a new way of seeing your dynamic — so you can move out of frustration and into true partnership. And if this episode resonates, share it with your partner — it's a beautiful way to start the conversation together. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: [email protected] Website: www.alimillercoaching.com

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