On Attachment
Episodes
#52: 6 Tips for Avoidant People in Becoming More Secure
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I'm offering 6 tips on how avoidant people can become more secure in their relationships. We cover: the importance of ...
#51: How to Initiate Hard Conversations with an Avoidant Partner
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing tips for initiating hard conversations with an avoidant partner. This is a question I get a lot - ho...
#50: Navigating Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm talking all about perfectionism - but probably not in the way you've heard it spoken about before. Perfectionism is oft...
#49: "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it personally."
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "My ex moved on immediately post break-up and I can't help but take it p...
#48: 5 Questions to Assess the Emotional Health of Your Relationship
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional health & safety in relationships. If you've ever wondered what "emotiona...
#47: "We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?"
09 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"We've been together a year and I've just seen he's still using Tinder. Can trust be rebuilt?" Today's episode is a comm...
#46: 5 Tips for Rebuilding After a Long-Term Relationship Ends
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing 5 tips for rebuilding after a long-term relationship ends. Let's face it: break-ups are painful at the best of ...
#45: "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so we can do the work?"
02 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm answering a question I receive all the time which is: "How do I tell my partner they are avoidant so that we can start ...
#44: 5 Reasons You Might Struggle to Apologise
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're talking all about apologies - and specifically, why they might feel so hard sometimes. Being able to apologise is so funda...
#43: "How do I navigate the tendency to lose myself in a long-term relationship as anxiously attached person?"
26 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's Q&A episode, I'm answering a community question about the (very common) tendency to lose oneself as an anxiously attached...
#42: 5 Similarities Between Anxious & Avoidant People
23 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We often speak about the many ways in which anxious and avoidantly attached people differ in their relationship styles. But in this episode, I'm ...
#41: Is It Possible to Go from Anxious to Avoidant after Heartbreak?
19 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm answering the community question of "I used to be anxiously attached, but after discovering my husband's infidelit...
#40: 5 Pieces of Unhelpful Relationship Advice (& What to do Instead)
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused with the vast amounts of (often-conflicting) relationship advice going around - which is why in this w...
#39: 5 Pieces of Life Advice for 2023
30 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In our last episode of 2022, I'm sharing 5 pieces of life advice to help you enter 2023 with intention, inspiration and clarity around who you wa...
#38: The 3 Stages of Healing Anxious Attachment
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I'm sharing a trend I notice in people with anxious attachment as they move through their healing journey. I'm ...
#37: Anxious Attachment & Inconsistency
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, we're talking all about anxious attachment & inconsistency. Inconsistency is a real point of sensitivity for anx...
#36: Q&A: Healing Anxious Attachment, How to Manage Texting Anxiety, Identifying & Expressing Needs, & Dealing w/ Boundaries from Avoidant Partners
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week is a Q&A-style episode, where I'm answering your questions all about anxious attachment! We'll cover what it actually means to...
#35: 5 Tips for Dealing with Regret & Self-Blame
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips to help you process feelings of regret, shame and self-blame about things that may have happened ...
#34: "What If I Outgrow My Partner?"
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is exploring the topic of what to do if you want to heal & grow... but your partner doesn't. This can be a really challe...
#33: What Causes an Insecure Attachment Style?
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're unpacking some of the common origin stories of each insecure attachment style. We'll look at what causes anxious atta...
#32: Q&A: Dishonesty & Avoidant Partners, Boundaries Around Space, Trust & Privacy, Sexual Rejection & more
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode I'm answering your questions - with a particular focus on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics. We're discussi...
#31: 5 Tips to Improve Your Relationship Communication Skills
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, I'm sharing 5 tips to improve your relationship communication skills. Communication is one of those areas of relationships where mos...
#30: 6 Signs You're Becoming More Secure
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're diving into 6 signs that you're becoming more secure in your relationships. Often our attention is focused on what's w...
#29: 5 Ways to Improve Your Self-Worth
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're talking all about self-worth. Self-worth is something I get asked about a lot - so I know how much people struggle with feelings...
#28: 5 Signs You Need Better Boundaries
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to building healthy relationships, all roads lead back to boundaries. In this week's episode, I'm offering 5 signs that you mi...
#27: 5 Reasons You Might Be Attracted to Unavailable People
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, we're talking 5 reasons why you might be attracted to unavailable people. I'm constantly being asked the questi...
#26: Attachment & Sex Q&A: Casual Sex & Anxious Attachment, Sex in Toxic vs Healthy Relationships, & Talking About Sex w/ Avoidant Partners
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I'm answering your questions around how attachment styles influence the way we relate to and experience sex. We ta...
#25: 5 Dating Tips for Anxiously Attached People
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing 5 dating tips for anxiously attached people. Many anxiously attached people have a tough time in the dating process ...
#24: Special Episode: Behind the Scenes of our Relationship (w/ my partner Joel)
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel to answer all of your questions about our relationship. We share everything from how we met to how...
#23: 5 Questions to Ask Before Getting Back with Your Ex
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're talking about whether it's a good idea to get back together with your ex - and under what circumstances. I offer you ...
#22: 5 Reasons Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Break-ups
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, there's a good chance you've really struggled to cope with relationship break-ups a...
#21: Break-Up Q&A: The "No-Contact" Period, Jealousy & Low Self-Worth, Feeling Blindsided, & Dating Mindset
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm answering all your break-up related questions! We're covering whether and when to break a "no-contact" period...
#20: How to Find Closure After a Break-Up
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, we're talking all things closure: what it is, why it's so elusive, and why certain people are more affected tha...
#19: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving into the challenging topic of how to know whether and when to walk away from a relationship that isn't working...
#18: Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags
26 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing with you 5 of the red flags that I see in relationships, along with their healthier, "green flag" alternat...
#17: 5 Differences Between the Fearful and Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered what differentiates the fearful avoidant and the dismissive avoidant attachment styles? In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 key di...
#16: Anxious Attachment, Conflict & Communication
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're talking about anxious attachment, conflict & communication. We'll dive into why anxiously attached people struggl...
#15: 5 Ways to Support an Anxiously Attached Partner
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an anxiously attached partner. This is a follow-up to our previous episode which discussed h...
#14: 5 Ways to Support an Avoidant Partner
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and bu...
#13: How to Navigate the Fear of Rejection
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving into the fear of rejection. Rejection is something so many of us struggle with, but for some people it can be reall...
#12: How to Set Boundaries
01 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're talking all things boundaries - what they are, what they aren't, how to figure out what your boundaries are and how t...
#11: How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment
24 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm giving you the lowdown on my signature methodology for how to heal anxious attachment. We'll discuss exactly what&apo...
#10: 5 Tips for Navigating a Break-Up
18 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm offering 5 tips for processing and navigating a break-up. We'll be discussing topics like managing expectations around ...
#9: 5 Steps to Working Through a Trigger
11 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm diving into 5 steps to working through a trigger. I'll be discussing the importance of nervous system regulation to you...
#8: Q&A: On All Things Love & Relationships
05 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's Q&A episode, we're exploring a mixed bag of love & relationship questions. Topics include how to navigate conflict wi...
#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
03 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship....
#6: Q&A: On Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm answering your questions around how to navigate relationships with avoidant partners. We're covering topics like how to...
#5: 5 Traits of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're exploring 5 traits of the lesser-known fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We'll cover the fearful a...
#4: 5 Traits of the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're unpacking 5 traits of the dismissive-avoidant attachment style. We'll cover the dismissive-avoidant's fierce i...
#3: Q&A: On Dating & Anxious Attachment
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this Q&A style episode, we're diving into questions from the audience around dating - and particularly, dating as an anxiously attached pe...
#2: 5 Things You Need to Know About Attachment Styles
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us have heard about attachment styles and attachment theory - but in this episode, I'm breaking down some common misconceptions and clari...
#1: 5 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're unpacking 5 key traits of the anxious attachment style - particularly in the context of adult romantic relationships. We&a...