MEL ROBBINS: How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Feeling Guilty (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Set Boundaries and Stop Putting Yourself Last!)
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How can we quiet our inner critic during stressful times?
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What do people worry about regarding others' opinions?
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What truths about self-criticism and people-pleasing does Mel Robbins share?
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How can we start listening to our own needs?
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What role does desperation play in personal change?
You're manipulating people so they like you. I'm not some pushover. I actually want people to like me so I am willing to manipulate them by staying silent or doing things I don't want to do or not expressing my boundaries because I at all costs just want people to like me. I'm so excited to be here tonight at the Wang Theatre in Boston with one of my dearest, dearest friends, Truly. And I want to dive straight in, Mel, because you've got so much insight, so much wisdom on this that I've been fortunate enough to benefit from in our friendship. But I want to start by asking you, what do you think people are most worried about when it comes to what others think about them? Well, I brought notes. Because I know Jay asks very tough questions.
I think that the thing that we're most worried about is just that people aren't going to like you, that they're going to misunderstand you. That's the thing that we're the most worried about. Because if you didn't care whether or not people liked you, if you didn't care about whether or not people misunderstood you or your intentions, you would just go about your life however the heck you wanted to. Right?
How can jealousy be transformed into a positive insight?
And so, truly, if you stop and think, like think about one person in your life who that's the person whose opinion you worry about the most. Imagine if you could go about your life and not care if they like you or not, not care if they don't understand you or not. And sometimes people will be like, well, it's my boss. Okay, there's a lot of bosses out there.
What strategies can help us break the habit of people-pleasing?
If the one that you're working for doesn't like you, There's nothing you can do about it, but you can always leave the job. And so I think that is what's at the heart of it, that we are so desperate to be liked and understood and loved by others that we live in fear that it's not going to happen. And in doing so, we basically live a life where we don't really like ourselves.
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Chapters
8 chapters
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What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:00–0:05
2
How can we quiet our inner critic during stressful times?
0:05–1:27
3
What do people worry about regarding others' opinions?
1:27–1:36
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What truths about self-criticism and people-pleasing does Mel Robbins share?
1:36–2:09
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How can we start listening to our own needs?
2:09–2:22
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What role does desperation play in personal change?
2:22–3:39
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How can jealousy be transformed into a positive insight?
3:39–4:09
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What strategies can help us break the habit of people-pleasing?
4:09–1:25:22
Speakers
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