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If you constantly find yourself overgiving, people-pleasing, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this episode is for you. Many people don’t realize they’re operating from codependent patterns because it often looks like being loving, loyal, or supportive on the surface. But underneath, it can feel exhausting, anxiety-provoking, and deeply disconnecting from your own needs.In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin is joined by trauma-informed coach, Brainspotting therapist, and narcissistic abuse recovery specialist Libby Sibert for a powerful conversation on how codependency forms, why breaking these patterns can feel so uncomfortable in the body, and how to begin shifting from chronic people-pleasing into grounded self-trust.Together, they explore the hidden signs of codependency many people miss, why setting boundaries can trigger guilt and fear even when you know change is necessary, and how these patterns live in the nervous system long before we consciously recognize them. You’ll also learn small, emotionally safe boundary practices, early signs that you’re moving toward healthier interdependence, and how to reconnect with your own needs after years of prioritizing others.If you’ve ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships, struggle to say no, or worry that putting yourself first makes you “selfish,” this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface and how to begin building secure, balanced, and emotionally safe relationships, starting with the relationship you have with yourself.Connect with Libby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/find_love_that_lasts_/Check out Libby's find love that lasts program: https://libbysibbert.kartra.com/page/FLTLFprogram1Check out Libby's coaching packages: https://www.libbysibbert.co.uk/coaching_packagesCheck out Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call