Should I Quit Trying to Involve My Ex in Our Daughter’s Life?
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Should I involve my daughter's biological dad in school activities?
Do I involve my daughter's biological dad in school activities when he shows no interest otherwise to pick her up?
What's the custody arrangement?
There is no legal custody arrangement. We kind of just left it for now. Oh, God. Don't do that, please. Please don't do that.
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Hi, Don. How are you?
I mean, I'm dancing like I've never danced before. How about you?
Oh, I just woke up.
I'm not dancing, so same team. What's up?
Okay, so my question is, Do I involve my daughter's biological dad in school activities when he shows no interest otherwise to pick her up or, you know, yeah, pretty much just pick her up otherwise?
No, but continue and tell me your story.
Okay. So there was... She just started school. She's five. And there was a teacher's conference. And I thought it was my due diligence to tell him, like, oh, there's a teacher's conference. If you would want to be involved, you can. And he was like, yeah, sure. But then my husband, he had a problem with it. And he feels like... Because my daughter's biological dad doesn't show interest in picking her up on his days off. He has three days off. He works four days, so he has three days off. And he doesn't pick her up on those days, which, you know, I feel he should.
What should I do about the custody arrangement?
What's the custody arrangement?
There is no legal custody arrangement. We kind of just left it for now. Don't do that, please. Please don't do that. Well, I'm only 24. I had her when I was 19.
I know. And so I'm telling you as an old man, I'm a thousand years old. Please get a legal custody arrangement. Please, please, please, please, please. The greatest gift you can give her is some clarity. Because what's going to happen is he's going to meet somebody and that person's going to start ruining everybody's life. And or you're gonna make a decision Based on I don't use this word mean I mean, I mean this in the best sense, but based on a fantasy Like I had a baby an amazing young girl by this guy He's kind of been a deadbeat. I'm remarried. I'm going on with my life But he is going to rise to the challenge and be a great friend and co-parent to our amazing little daughter. He's not He sucks
And so you're going to keep ticking along, and what you're going to find yourself doing is trying to drag him into a situation that he is – behavior is a language. He is letting everybody know, including his precious little baby girl, I don't want anything to do with this. But someday somebody is going to sue you for custody. And he's going to say, look at all these conferences I went to. Look at all this. And he never picked her up, never helped, never put a dime on the table. I can't tell you how important it is to get a custody agreement, a legal one, and then just follow it. But to answer your broad question, without an agreement – If you have a guy here that shows no interest, doesn't pick his daughter up, isn't driving you crazy trying to see his precious baby girl, then he is telling you on a day-to-day, minute-by-minute, second-by-second basis, I don't care about your life. I don't care about her life. And so he's opting out. And so no, he is not a part of her rhythms of her life. And will that come back and haunt her?
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