Why High Performers Wish They'd Enjoyed It More
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Hi there, welcome back to the show. You're listening to High Performance with myself, Jake Humphrey. And me, Damien Hughes. Mate, we've been doing this for well over seven years. You know, I keep seeing photos pop. And I'm like in fact the other day my kids looked at one, my s said when who's that with Damien? I'm like, That's your dad a lot younger. How dare you? Scary obviously you look the same.
No, I wish. Yeah. I w I I was actually doing something last night. We were looking at like photos of the kids when they were when they were When they were babies and Yeah, like my son just turned seventeen.
And but you would have started this when he was nine or ten. Yeah, yeah. It's weird, isn't
it? 'Cause
I was thinking we've done this nearly eight years. Uh um, we started when I was forty, I'm now forty eight. I've hosted high performance for twenty percent of my life. Ridiculous. Anyway, we're loving it. We continue to love it. We love your support. Please, if you can like, share, subscribe to the episodes. Almost everyone that enjoys our shows isn't a subscriber. And it would make such a massive difference to us if the hundreds of thousands of people every week that enjoy high performance just hit the subscribe button. It means we can continue to grow the show. We can attract even more incredible guests and we can continue to bring you episodes like this, which we know are really valuable. Today we're talking about enjoyment.
The question we're asking is why do high performers almost always wish that you'd enjoyed it a little bit more. And we want to start today with a question. And the question is, and this is really for you at home, for you as well, Damien. What do you actually feel when you win? If I ask you the question, what do you feel when you win? And you were to give me a very brief answer, what would it be?
Often relief. Really? Yeah, because it's often that sense that you've sort of allowed yourself to go to the place of victory in your mind and then you imagine what it would be like if that wasn't there. So to reach it then doesn't necessarily bring happiness. It's more sense of relief. I got what I wanted.
Interesting.
What do you think?
I think I uh Uhhuh. I just wonder whether I should have set the benchmark a bit higher. Right. The benchmark for victory. You know, 'cause we don't operate in I don't know the the world of sport, for example. So a win for us is an audience number or um um a partnership. fee or um getting asked to stand up on a stage and do a talk. And every time one of those things happens, of course they're all individually wins. But I then find myself thinking, well, maybe we should have been on a bigger stage. Yeah. Maybe we should have had a different partner. Maybe we should have had higher numbers. It's It's the age old thing, right? You know, s for those of you that don't know the story, uh, Sredmund Hillary, the great explorer, was reported to have come back to the UK after conquering the world's highest mountain at the time, no one had ever been higher and
The reporter said to him, What did you think when you got to the top? And he apparently said, Well, I I looked to my left. And I saw a higher mountain. And this is so relevant for for you, for our audience, for the people that we have on the show. And that question, what do you actually feel when you win, is a vital question when it comes to high performance because we all know that we're living in an era where there's a lot of grind slop, right? This constant conversation about optimizing yourself. We live in a culture that is impressing on us all the time that we have to optimize our lives in every single way. However, What we like to ask on this show is, well, what are we optimizing our lives for?
You know, what is the point in reaching the top of our own proverbial mountain if reaching it actually changes nothing? So that question that we're asking today, how can you get the balance right? How can we still be high performers? How can we still find an edge? How can we still achieve our dreams? Because those things still do matter.
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Chapters
4 chapters
1
What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
0:03–4:15
2
What do high performers actually feel when they win?
4:15–16:20
3
How does the hedonic treadmill explain why success feels empty?
16:20–24:21
4
Why do elite athletes like Rio Ferdinand never pause to celebrate their victories?
24:21–30:05
Speakers
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