Digital Love
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What is digital love and how has online dating changed traditional romance rules?
The hookup with Hannah Reilly. Love and f ⁇ ing
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On Triple J.
Hey, welcome to the Hookup. I'm Hannah Riley. It's your safe, sex-positive space on a Sunday night where we talk long and hard, but always from the heart about sex and relationships. Now, tonight we're sliding into the DMs and talking about digital love. No, not the fingering kind, although we may end up doing a whole show on that at some point. We're talking about romance on dating apps and social media. Yeah. There's heaps of old school rules about how we should act in relationships in real life, but now that online dating and social media has become such a massive part of our love lives, how should we act online? The traditional rules of the, you know, physical realm of dating and romance have had thousands and thousands of years to develop, whereas we've only had access to the internet properly for about 20 years.
We still have no idea what we're doing. We are literally making this up as we go along. Like what's the digital equivalent of making eye contact across the bar? What effect does looking through every single one of someone's Facebook photos or getting emotional validation on a dating app have on our mental health? We're gonna look at that a little bit later in the show with an e mental health expert. Up soon though, comedian and prolific grinder user Nate Valvo is gonna chat us through how the app has been a complete game changer for the gay scene. Tonight we're talking all about digital love. What are your rules for dating online? Have you got an amazing tinder tale that you wanna share? Hey, you're on the hookup on Triple J on Sunday nights.
It's a brand new show here on Triple J that's all about sex and relationships. It's the kind of place where we don't put you down for putting out. Now, tonight we're talking all about digital love. Do you think dating and starting relationships today is easier in real life or online? In some ways I think it's easier online because you can have a certain amount of control of the way that you're perceived. You can pick your hottest photo, whack a filter on it, make at least eight drafts of a funny message before you send it. But in real life, all of that control goes out the window. For example, the last time that I really just pulled myself out there and tried to flirt with a person in real life, I started footseeing a guy
under the table when I was about out with a bunch of friends and it got a little bit too vigorous and I ended up falling off my chair onto my ass in front of all of my friends. And they had to ask why I fell off my chair and I had to tell it because it was because I was footing someone under the table. So I pretty quickly downloaded Tinder after that. Uh for a couple of reasons. One because I'm a single female human being and pretty much everyone that I know that is single is on Tinder. And two, because I read an article once that said that Shane won Australian Cricket legend and human meme was also on Tinder. And I kind of became obsessed with the idea of matching with him and going on a date and how hilarious that would be.
And uh one day I was hanging out, pretty hungover, with my old housemate and uh soon-to-be guest on the show tonight, uh, comedian and writer Eddie Sharp. And we were both just vigorously swiping away on Tinder, and I suddenly just started Screaming because I swear I swiped past what I'm ninety nine point nine percent sure was the actual Shane Warn Tinder profile and I was completely inconsolable. Since that terrible day that I'll never forget, I've been using it on and off, but I've found that can it can be incredibly addictive, quite shockingly so. It's kind of like love pokies. You just keep mechanically swiping away until we have a match and you get this quick rush of validation, and you know, it it affirms that someone's interested in you or that you're pretty or whatever you happen to be looking for.
And it's not just Just dating apps, having access to exes on social media can also play complete havoc on you emotionally, being able to lurk their page for months whenever you want.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What is digital love and how has online dating changed traditional romance rules?
0:04–8:51
2
How do personal Tinder experiences illustrate the highs and lows of swiping?
8:51–18:23
3
What can we learn from Nate Valvo’s Grindr stories about gay hookup culture?
18:23–31:41
4
How does online lurking affect relationships and what are the etiquette tips?
31:41–44:03
5
What are the mental‑health impacts of constant social‑media exposure after a breakup?
44:03–54:52
6
How can you protect your mental health when checking an ex’s profile becomes a habit?
54:52–1:00:58
7
How can listeners practice self‑love and healthy digital habits on Valentine’s Day?
1:00:58–1:03:45