Huge age gaps when you're young

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What legal age‑of‑consent rules apply to relationships with large age gaps?

Daniel 0:00

I like girls that sort of aren't completely independent and I can be somewhat of a role model to them. Older girls will have their decisions or their morals and everything sort of much more in place, whereas these young girls are still a bit all over the shop and I sort of feel when they are looking up to you like I I'm caring for them that it gives me some sense of purpose but a having said that it it can become too much where they are too reliant.

Unknown 0:31

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Sarah McVee 0:39

honey on. On Triple J. Warning Sex and Adult Themes. Hey Sarah McVee with you. What do you reckon about a 16 year old dating a 27 year old? Age gaps in young relationships can be tricky, but can you make it work? In this episode, we'll find out what's legal when it comes to age gaps in young relationships with lawyer Matthew Keighley. Psychologist Elizabeth Shaw talks about how our psychological development impacts our love lives at different ages in our teens and 20s. And 22-year-old Nita talks about meeting her now fiance when she was 17 and he was 30. First though, this is Daniel. He's talking about what appeals to him about dating younger women. Just a warning, you might find it confronting.

Daniel 1:31

Well, she wasn't actually at school, so she had a bit more time. She'd sort of had a bit of a tough upbringing, so she was actually a bit more mature than most girls around that age. Um She was gone. quite open minded and a bit of a free spirit, a bit of a hippie which I sort of liked and why we got along in the first place. I was attracted to her and Sort of just happened really. I didn't plan it at all.

Unknown 1:57

Did you feel bad about being with someone so much younger than you?

Daniel 2:00

No, not really. Like I sort of knew her mom and our dads like played cricket together and it sort of wasn't didn't feel as if I was doing something like completely wrong. Um There are inklings at times where you sort of feel it's not right but I still just went with it and But having said that I probably wouldn't do it again.

Unknown 2:24

Having been with a sixteen year old but also having been with people your own age, what would you say is the main difference?

Daniel 2:31

I like girls that sort of aren't completely independent and I can be somewhat of a role model to them. Um Older girls. will have their decisions or their morals and everything sort of much more in place, whereas these young girls are still a bit all over the shop and can actually become a lot more dependent and I don't know, end up in turmoil.

Unknown 2:57

So do you see that dependence as a good thing as well as a bad thing?

Daniel 3:01

Yeah, I guess you could say that. Like it's I sort of feel when they are looking up to you like I I'm caring for them that It gives me some sense of purpose, but uh having said that it it can become too much where they are too reliant. Which can very well And on a bad note.

How does Daniel describe his attraction to much younger women and the role‑model dynamic?

Unknown 3:21

Do you think you are naturally attracted to younger girls than like girls much younger than you?

Daniel 3:28

I I wouldn't say that. It de it's all down to the individual really. Obviously younger girls are I g you can't say better looking, but they're they're fresher, they they tighter and sexier and girls my age just look old. I'm not attracted to that.

Unknown 3:46

And so with that in mind, would you continue to date teenagers?

Daniel 3:50

Well, as I get older it's probably less acceptable, but if I can get away with it and it's legal, then yeah, why why wouldn't I? I must be doing something right if I can do it.

Unknown 4:00

Do you find that you can connect with girls that are are younger on those levels? Like do you like the same music as them and do you do you find the same things interesting or is it purely physical?

Daniel 4:09

That's the big question really. And I haven't met someone my age that has the the best of both worlds, I guess you could say, but I think it is more so a physical or sexual thing. As opposed to dating someone that was my age that I would c connect on more on a personal level.

Unknown 4:29

And why isn't that important to you?

Daniel 4:32

I can get that elsewhere.

Unknown 4:34

Do you feel like with younger people they're not gonna challenge you as much, that you can kind of be the boss?

Daniel 4:39

Yeah, I like that.

Unknown 4:42

What do you think your friends think about the fact that you always go for younger women and in in many cases girls?