It's a small (dating) world after all
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Why does dating feel like a small‑world rom‑com in our towns?
Have you ever watched those classic rom-coms, you know, like Love Actually or Crazy Stupid Love, where someone's dating someone and it turns out they're like your friend's ex's best friend, who's also an ex of a cousin, and your parents' best friend's kid, and everyone's connected somehow, and you're like, whoa, I'm spiraling. How is everything connected? And then. You remember it's just a movie and this shit doesn't happen in real life. Well, well, well, my friend. Turns out it's a small world after all. Even in Australia's biggest cities.
I had gone on a few dates with a guy. It turns out that one of my girlfriends had also dated him prior to that. But a few months later we were at a pub and the guy was there. Then um my friend's friend arrives, sees the guy. and tells us that she has also been dating him recently and it just ended.
That's Laura from Melbourne, and according to a lot of you, when it comes to dating, everyone seems to be connected to everyone somehow. Maybe you're dating someone and realize they've been with people who've been with your exes. Or your family or friends. It can make you feel really awkward. Especially if you're living in a small town or community that makes it kinda hard to hide. Nat Tencich here. And in this episode, we'll find out how to deal if your dating pool is super small and you've tried every available option. And also how to work through those feelings of awkwardness if you're seeing someone who's slept with people you know. Honestly, some of the stories you're gonna hear in this episode could be turned into rom-coms.
It's crazy to think that even in our cities with millions of people, this stuff actually happens. Actually, it was a hookup listener, Chris, who emailed us asking us to do this as a topic. He said, I live in Melbourne, broke up with my ex in December 2019, dated a guy for six months, about two months after. Started dating my current partner between lockdowns this year. And the catch is, my ex is the last person my current partner slept with. And crazier still, the guy I was seeing earlier is now dating my ex. Maybe this is just a one-off. Anyway. It's a small world. And it turns out Chris is not alone. Eddie from Aldry has a pretty interesting story.
I've been living in Albury for a couple of years, and the dating scene here can be a bit of a struggle, but this actually happened to me as a teenager in Sydney. So I'd been hooking out with this guy, and he came over to my place, and as he was leaving, he mentioned to me, Oh, I feel like I've been here before. Um, I put two and two together and realized that he had already slept with my brother. I made a quip along those lines and he replied, Oh, don't worry, you were better. Uh funnily enough, we a couple years later, I was at a Mardi Gras party dancing with my brother and his boyfriend, and our mutual hookup was behind us. I saw my brother look around and quickly avert his eyes. By this point, I was pretty tipsy, so I joked, oh, apparently I was better.
Uh to his credit though, my brother did pay me back. He gave a speech at my twenty-first and in front of all of my friends and family declared, Eddie and I share a lot in common. Let's just say a yard glass wasn't long enough to get through that story.
Lauren, Coolin Nation Melbourne, how is your dating world weirdly small?
I had gone on a few dates with a guy. Um, it didn't go anywhere. Um, it turns out that one of my girlfriends had also dated him prior to that. But a few months later we were at a pub and the guy was there. Then um my friend's friend arrives, sees the guy. and tells us that she has also been dating him recently and it just ended. So we ended up the three of us all sitting there having a drink together with the poor guy on the opposite side of the room, just trying to avoid eye contact with us, I think.
feel like the three of you realizing that you'd all kind of I guess trod on the same
I know. It was a little bit strange, but yeah, I think it was worse for him actually.
Yeah.
How did Laura’s story illustrate overlapping ex‑relationships?
And I mean I guess in Melbourne, like you'd be thinking that you're not going to be running into the like running into those sorts of issues or like coming across the same people all the time.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Why does dating feel like a small‑world rom‑com in our towns?
0:00–4:18
2
How did Laura’s story illustrate overlapping ex‑relationships?
4:18–8:12
3
What challenges arise when an ex dates someone in your friend group?
8:12–11:54
4
How can you navigate awkwardness when your ex dates a close friend?
11:54–16:03
5
What advice does the dating coach give for expanding a tiny dating pool?
16:03–20:49
6
How do cultural and community ties affect dating options in remote areas?
20:49–24:28
7
What strategies help you stay happy and fulfilled while single?
24:28–28:19
8
How can listeners share their own small‑world dating stories with the show?
28:19–31:51