Chapter 1: What are the three signs you’re being gaslit?
In today's episode, I'm going to be talking about the three must-know signs of whether you are being gaslit. So we're going to be talking about how do you know it, what to do, and if it's you who's actually unconsciously, unknowingly doing the gaslighting. All that and more, coming up.
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Almost always I get the question of what exactly is gaslighting? I know I've talked about it on this podcast, but it's worth reiterating again. Gaslighting is a term that has come about to me when somebody is trying to distort your reality in communication. They are trying to make you question your truth, the veracity of what you say, to make you question your own state of mind.
It comes from what I researched as a term from a play, and I think it was actually a movie, like in the 1930s.
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Chapter 2: How do you identify if you’re being gaslit in conversations?
It's now about your tone. Now it's about how you said things. Yeah, I said this, but if you hadn't have just used that tone, you know, that tone you always have, right? If it was all of a sudden you being the problem, When you know good and well, you're like, no, this is, something is off here. This is where I'm gonna remind you, trust your gut. Trust your gut.
When that happens, when you feel like something is off, High sign here that those external factors are pointing to something is pushing on you.
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Every style, every home. And now, let's keep going. Here's another shift. When it comes from accountability on their part to all of a sudden shifts to sensitivity on your part, meaning they could take all accountability right then and there. And instead of taking accountability, they shifted to now being about you being too sensitive. You can't take a joke. You can't be normal with anybody else.
You're less than because you're too sensitive. And all of a sudden, you're now questioning yourself. Am I too sensitive? Is there something wrong with me? It's where that self-reflection piece becomes the center of everything.
In my opinion, I find that most people who are susceptible to being gaslit are the people that are more insecure and often more self-reflective, meaning they overthink things in their head all the time. They say something and then they overthink a conversation that they had said, like, why did I say that? That was so dumb. I must look so stupid to them.
And they really get negative in their own thoughts about that. That's where I find that people who are gaslighting kind of get into the crevices of that. They can tell and they prey on those type of personalities. Here's one last shift that I think I see a lot is it shifts from their behavior to your reaction.
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