How to Handle Difficult People: 7 Psychological Tricks to Read Anyone, Spot a Liar & Stay in Control
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What are the challenges of dealing with difficult people?
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. Is it just me, or are people being ruder, acting more entitled, or flat out lying to you and having zero shame about it? There's always going to be difficult people in your life, but it feels like there are more and more of them every single day. Don't you agree? And And I know I'm not alone in feeling this because I see your questions rolling in at MelRobbins.com and I see all your comments on YouTube and Spotify. You're tired of dealing with difficult people and you're looking for very tactical strategies. How do you read people? How do you protect your energy? How do you spot a liar? How do you not get sucked into other people's drama?
How do you stay in control so that you don't get baited or manipulated or played by somebody who's difficult? Just this weekend, I was so frustrated with a particular person in my life that I went back and re-listened to an episode with Evy Pampouris, a former US Secret Service agent who was also a member of their elite polygraph unit. which basically means she is a human lie detector who's been tasked with using science-backed techniques to be absolutely sure if she was getting the truth or not. If somebody was trying to play her or they were acting straight up. I re-listened to the episode that she appeared on and I was like, oh my God. these strategies are so good. I feel so much more powerful.
I'm going to better boundaries and be able to spot all these liars and manipulative people. And I thought, I have to share this with you. I mean, based on the state of the world and how so many people are behaving right now, you need to listen to this because she's going to teach you all about body language. how to spot a liar, dealing with manipulative people, and something so fascinating called paralinguistics, which is how you can spot the truth that is hiding in someone's tone, pacing, and pauses. Because as you're about to learn, it's not what people say, it's how they say it that matters. And I want you to stay to the very end. Because Evie drops this one takeaway that is one of my favorite pieces of advice that any guest has ever given on this show.
It is so helpful because it relates to how some of the most manipulative people in your life are the ones you're close to. And you have to deal with them every day.
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am so excited that you're here. It's such an honor to be together and to spend this time with you. And if you're a new listener or you're here because somebody shared this with you, I just want to take a moment and personally welcome you to the Mel Robbins Podcast family. Today, holy cow, are you listening to an extraordinary episode because you're going to learn psychological tricks to read anyone and spot a liar. And there's nobody better to teach you than Evie Pampouris. She's a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent serving in the Elite Polygraph Unit, trained to detect deception and to read behavior. Now, that experience made her one of the most fascinating experts in the world on human behavior, communication and how to stay calm and in control under pressure and around manipulative people.
Evie has protected and worked alongside five former U.S. presidents during high stakes assignments. She's a trained interrogator and behavioral specialist who has spent her career studying what people do, what they say, and what they reveal when the pressure is on and the stakes are high. She is the best-selling author of Becoming Bulletproof, and I am so excited for you to experience this life-changing conversation. So let's just jump right in at the beginning. Evie, welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. Thank you, Mel. I have been admiring you from afar and online like a stalker that the Secret Service would take out. I'm so glad to be sitting here with you. I'm very humbled. Very humbled. Thank you for saying that.
Here's where I want to start. Could you tell the person that is listening to us right now?
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What are the challenges of dealing with difficult people?
0:00–5:29
2
How can you read someone's body language effectively?
5:29–8:38
3
What psychological tricks can help you spot a liar?
8:38–12:48
4
How do you maintain control during difficult conversations?
12:48–16:17
5
What are the signs that someone wants to exit a conversation?
16:17–19:30
6
Why is eye contact not a reliable indicator of truth?
19:30–22:11
7
How can you manage your emotions around manipulative people?
22:11–25:10
8
What strategies can help you handle chaos in relationships?
25:10–1:20:07
Speakers
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