People ask me this all the time. And given that my website is called Save The Marriage, most assume they already know my answer. They're wrong. No. Not every marriage can (or should) be saved. I want to be straight about that. There are situations where saving the marriage is not the goal, and pursuing it would be a mistake. If that's where you are, this episode will tell you clearly. But here's what I also believe: far more marriages could be saved than actually are. And the gap between those two things — what's possible and what actually happens — usually comes down to three specific places where people get stuck. Not effort. Not even willingness. Three very specific places. And once you can see where you're stuck, the path forward gets a lot clearer. This episode also takes on the question I hear constantly from people working on their marriage alone: How do I know if it's too far gone? It's an honest question, and it deserves an honest answer — not false reassurance, but not unnecessary surrender either. There's also something in here about regret. Not as a motivational tactic, but as a real consideration. Because regret is what's left when we don't take action we wish we had. And that's hard to undo, no matter what happens next. This is episode 601. That's a milestone worth noting, and maybe worth listening to if you're standing at your own crossroads right now, trying to figure out whether to keep going or let go. The answer to the question isn't the same for everyone. But there's only one way to find out which answer is yours. RELATED RESOURCES: The ARC of Saving Your Marriage There IS No Try Save The Marriage System

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