we’ve lost the art of friendship
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What unexpected moments can lead to meaningful friendships?
The best friendships in your life will come from the moments you least expect. And they will come from people that are a complete opposite reflection of everything that you are. I first noticed this in my life when I was introduced to my first true best friend, which was Patrick in middle school. Patrick and I, we both shared so many common interests. We were both Polish, devoutly into soccer, and also both loved throwing controllers in FIFA. This is true, okay? And it's not your fault. It's the game's fault. Trust me. Yes, the game is rigged against you and it's scripted.
How did the host's friendship with Patrick begin?
And we met in middle school when I was sitting down in my, I don't know, fifth period lunch. And Patrick sat down next to me and immediately said, I know you. The first thing that came out of his mouth, I know you. This kid with sports glasses and Arsenal jersey. Who is this bozo? I say, I don't know you. I've never met you in my life. He's like, no, no, no. I know you very well. You actually helped me warm up. I used to play goalie and I think you came for a friend's soccer game and you were taking shots on a net and I was saving them. And I'm like, dude, I've, wait a minute. You're right. Wait, I do. Yeah, you're right. I think we know each other. He's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Thanks for that. I think I'm better than you at soccer.
If you know anything about being a middle schooler, 13, 14 year old, it's like when your ego is the most fragile, okay? It's like it's a glass pane. And just the tiniest pebble will break it. Or a screen protector on the old iPhone. Those screen protectors, I don't even think they were legit. Because I swear I would crack them within the first couple of days of having them. And then I'd have to go in and do the whole warranty swap. And oh my goodness, it was just more of a headache than they were worth. Anyways. What do you mean you're better than me at soccer? I've never, I don't even know you.
What challenges do we face in making new friends as adults?
I kind of know you. But I don't even, who are you, dude? Well, I mean... I just, I know how you play. I've seen you play. I think I could take you one-on-one. Oh, really? What are you doing after school? Where I grew up, across the middle school, was our soccer field. That's where we trained, that's where we had club practice. So it was clear what we needed to do. On Friday, that first week in middle school, Patrick and I were going to go to the field and we were gonna have a one-on-one. That's just what you had to do, right? He challenged me, he was talking all this trash, let's do it. And I remember it was this overcast day. Get out of school. We're all excited. We hit the field and It was funny like the whole walk to the field There is this weird feeling I couldn't really get to the bottom of I
where our banter, our chemistry, the fact that we were like so into all the same stuff and it was kind of fun to talk about these things, but slightly different. He always had a different angle towards everything, right?
Why is it difficult to understand what friendship looks like today?
I was a Chelsea fan, like big, I guess, back in the day. He was an Arsenal fan, that was funny. We kind of had different, we played different positions in soccer. We had different views on things, on the world, on experiences. Even though we shared a very common thing of both being kids of immigrants and kind of figuring out what this life was going to look like for us for the first time in a new country. I really, I didn't even really care about the game that we played. I think it was like a marginal difference of who won and I forget. Maybe, probably me. I actually don't know. But that day, I remember it felt like a start of something that was going to be here for the rest of my life. And it has. That friendship is one I still have.
And I hold dearly. And Patrick and I talk on the phone and... We keep tabs on each other. He's seen me here in Austin. It's been really special to keep that friendship. But I would be lying if I didn't say that there's a good chance that won't happen again. At least that's what I thought. But time and time again in my life, I have somehow fallen into situations where I meet good people.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What unexpected moments can lead to meaningful friendships?
0:00–0:38
2
How did the host's friendship with Patrick begin?
0:38–2:11
3
What challenges do we face in making new friends as adults?
2:11–3:25
4
Why is it difficult to understand what friendship looks like today?
3:25–6:52
5
How do expectations affect our friendships?
6:52–9:34
6
What role does time play in nurturing friendships?
9:34–12:10
7
How can we identify toxic friendships?
12:10–15:21
8
What are the essential qualities of a true friend?
15:21–28:19