Adrian Kaler

I created the outcome, even if it wasn't my meeting. So if a team is willing to take that level of ruthless, rigorous responsibility, then we've got a whole ballgame. Then nothing can stop them.

I created the outcome, even if it wasn't my meeting. So if a team is willing to take that level of ruthless, rigorous responsibility, then we've got a whole ballgame. Then nothing can stop them.

I mean, that's what you don't have to call me. Call somebody because you're in the culture. So it's first off, it is hard to do surgery on yourself. And most people won't. And to be honest, most of us can't, including the guy talking right now, because I am so entrenched in my thinking. And not a lot of our thinking is novel. Most of it's wired into us. And so it's really hard.

I mean, that's what you don't have to call me. Call somebody because you're in the culture. So it's first off, it is hard to do surgery on yourself. And most people won't. And to be honest, most of us can't, including the guy talking right now, because I am so entrenched in my thinking. And not a lot of our thinking is novel. Most of it's wired into us. And so it's really hard.

There's an old transformational saying that you've got to get outside the box. But the instructions to get outside the box are on the outside of the box. So you need to get some feedback. And that's horrific for us as human beings because we're very, without even thinking about it, we wake up into the world egomaniacs. That I am a certain way. This is who I am and this is who you are.

There's an old transformational saying that you've got to get outside the box. But the instructions to get outside the box are on the outside of the box. So you need to get some feedback. And that's horrific for us as human beings because we're very, without even thinking about it, we wake up into the world egomaniacs. That I am a certain way. This is who I am and this is who you are.

Yeah, it is Tammy. And even that thinking of like judgment and contempt and superiority and victimization, that's just built into the human brain. We don't get a vote on that. That's just gravity for us. So we call it survival needs. Looking good, feeling good, being right, being in control. That's gravity.

Yeah, it is Tammy. And even that thinking of like judgment and contempt and superiority and victimization, that's just built into the human brain. We don't get a vote on that. That's just gravity for us. So we call it survival needs. Looking good, feeling good, being right, being in control. That's gravity.

Now, you can get past that, you can get beyond that, or maybe even stand on that, the metaphor we'd really use, because that's not going anywhere. We can look out from that view and then see something. So to more succinctly answer your question, you start with yourself. and say, okay, what's here? And get real about what's here. What are the dynamics? And can I get language around them?

Now, you can get past that, you can get beyond that, or maybe even stand on that, the metaphor we'd really use, because that's not going anywhere. We can look out from that view and then see something. So to more succinctly answer your question, you start with yourself. and say, okay, what's here? And get real about what's here. What are the dynamics? And can I get language around them?

You must put language around dynamics. That's the first thing, is language is the, language gives us handles for reality. And we all have a sense of what's happening, but we all have a different language for what's happening. So if I'm running the show, if I'm the CEO, if I'm answering the question like that, then I gotta work to get language around the current dynamics.

You must put language around dynamics. That's the first thing, is language is the, language gives us handles for reality. And we all have a sense of what's happening, but we all have a different language for what's happening. So if I'm running the show, if I'm the CEO, if I'm answering the question like that, then I gotta work to get language around the current dynamics.

We've got tons of frameworks for this, by the way, but this will just give the bullet points. Get language for it. Now, think about if nothing changes, what will happen next? And walk that all the way out. We call that the parade of horribles. So if this doesn't shift, what's going to happen?

We've got tons of frameworks for this, by the way, but this will just give the bullet points. Get language for it. Now, think about if nothing changes, what will happen next? And walk that all the way out. We call that the parade of horribles. So if this doesn't shift, what's going to happen?

You've got to walk it all the way to death, essentially, of the company, maybe even everybody gets fired, including you, and public ridicule, and kids run away, and blah, blah, blah. Let it get dirty.

You've got to walk it all the way to death, essentially, of the company, maybe even everybody gets fired, including you, and public ridicule, and kids run away, and blah, blah, blah. Let it get dirty.

um because the human brain moves five times faster to escape hell than to pursue heaven we know that so you got to let it get bad because it is true something like that is true that if i don't transform this which might be shut the company down it might be fire everybody but anyway there's lots of layers in between but if i don't transform this hell's coming and i you have to motivate myself to shift because nothing has worked up until now that's what we know that we let it get here on purpose not on accident

um because the human brain moves five times faster to escape hell than to pursue heaven we know that so you got to let it get bad because it is true something like that is true that if i don't transform this which might be shut the company down it might be fire everybody but anyway there's lots of layers in between but if i don't transform this hell's coming and i you have to motivate myself to shift because nothing has worked up until now that's what we know that we let it get here on purpose not on accident

There are payoffs for it being dysfunctional. These are types of thinking that people don't do because people say it's dysfunctional and I hate it, but they don't mean it. Like they mean it to themselves, but it's not true is what I really mean by that. It's dysfunctional and I love it. How do I know that? Because it's dysfunctional. And if I say, how long has it been this way?

There are payoffs for it being dysfunctional. These are types of thinking that people don't do because people say it's dysfunctional and I hate it, but they don't mean it. Like they mean it to themselves, but it's not true is what I really mean by that. It's dysfunctional and I love it. How do I know that? Because it's dysfunctional. And if I say, how long has it been this way?