Ben Ilubuchi

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589 appearances 3 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 14 Sep

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The Hook Up · What The Hell Is A Situationship? And Am I In One? · 27 Jul 2026 podcast

didn't want one or like decided okay this isn't for us i think it's just that awfulness of feeling invalidated by maybe society everyone else the people around you and also yourself i agree with that i think in line with mourning something that could have happened you also never really get to see the worst of a person like a situationship it's literally all honeymoon and then it ends so in long-term relationships even ones where you like really love them the breakup is obviously awful

But you do at least get to go, oh, but they were really annoying when they didn't clean up after themselves so that you can point to things.

But when a situation ships in, it was all incredible.

You never got to see the part of them that would have maybe annoyed you.

Literally all potential.

Yeah.

Hetero.

Yeah.

I do think there are dynamics that are very specific to, you know, cis men and women and how they interact with each other that allow situationships to get to a certain point.

I have definitely felt...

Look, I'll admit something.

I have been the villain in some of my situationships.

I haven't been always on the shittier end.

I definitely have felt myself being in more of control.

And I think sometimes in my younger years, I used the fact that I was a guy and that I knew that I could maybe have a bit more control of the pace because I know that a lot of women are primed for the man to be like, okay.

I'm ready to be in a relationship and ask.

I would sometimes use that knowledge to just be like, well, if she's not saying anything, then I guess she's fine.

Knowing that she is probably wanting something more from me.

Yeah.

I think there's another level of feeling like an idiot on top of also being heartbroken.

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