Ben Ilubuchi

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589 appearances 3 recordings 1 series first heard Jul 2026 last heard 14 Sep

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The Hook Up · What The Hell Is A Situationship? And Am I In One? · 27 Jul 2026 podcast

push and pull it's been like oh this is obviously going the way it's going i feel no ambiguity i have no fear and then you end up in a relationship but that is just doesn't feel as exciting or sexy so i think it just seems like it'll feel really good to convince someone who was not sure about you whereas someone who is sure about you it's probably the most likely person to be your partner but it just doesn't feel it's like you're not second guessing yeah yeah it just also doesn't he's like this is happening too easily for me this needs to be harder

Yeah, yeah.

You do know, you do know.

But I also think that if you're in a good, if you're in a situationship with someone who you like enough, it also unfortunately makes it really hard to even distract yourself with other people.

I think you also find, start to find other people unattractive in comparison to them.

The idea of, you know, not putting all your eggs in one basket is hard when like one basket makes all the other baskets look really shit.

So you just end up getting deeper and deeper anyways because of that as well.

Very mature.

Very mature, Jeremy.

No, I agree.

But I will say, counterpoint, I think I've probably ended up in situations because I'm also a person who isn't 100% sure.

I do want to be in a relationship with a person from the start.

So...

during the stage where I'm figuring it out, I don't want to have that conversation because I'm not even sure if by the end that I do want them to be my girlfriend.

Ironically enough, I've also been in situationships where I'm like really heartbroken of the idea that they don't want to be my girlfriend.

But then if they were like, do you want to be my boyfriend?

I'd be like, I'm not sure.

I think that's also an underrated part of situationships.

Yeah, I completely agree.

I don't care how upfront you've been about your feelings.

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