Caroline Foran

Or did you, are you having fun?

It's like, I wonder what your favourite part of today was.

My favourite part was this.

And it's inviting them to communicate alongside you

Oh my goodness, I'm exhausted listening to you.

I just thought it was all me and my fault.

And I mean, the first thing I said to my husband when we got the diagnosis was it wasn't our fault.

Like we this isn't just because we were like the two worst parents to ever come down.

But you hear that so much parents just blame themselves.

Yeah.

And but but like society blames us because we totally overemphasize and we overestimate the influence we have on our kids.

Like we believe that we are.

choosing to engineer our kids to be exactly how they are.

And like, yes, nurture matters, but nature, at a young age, nature is such a huge force.

Yeah, I mean, and I do think like people would think that, you know, if their child is really easygoing, that like, oh, that's because we parented them because we're so chill.

I'm like, I would have really liked to go into this being very chill and like having no fixed plan and, you know, rolling with this.

My child, I couldn't.

So you parent a child that you have.

But for the longest time, I just thought I just kept looking inward to myself and that I had created these problems.

He came into the world with an air of concern.