Dan Harris

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14,434 appearances 62 recordings 6 series first heard Nov 2024 last heard 5d ago

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10% Happier with Dan Harris · Top 10 Practices for Resetting Your Time, Space, Body, Inner Critic, and Social Life | Laurie Santos and Gretchen Rubin · 9 Sep 2026 podcast

That I it's just so cool that that's possible now. voice-verified

Now backed up by data. voice-verified

I would just add that our mutual friend, we the three of us have a mutual friend, Ethan Cross from the University of Michigan, whose work has shown that you can really supercharge part three of the self-compassion practice, the talking to yourself part, by using your own name, or I sometimes use bro or dude to create some distance. voice-verified

In fact, it's called distance. voice-verified

And self talk. voice-verified

Um, so yeah, there's a lot here. voice-verified

Indeed. voice-verified

Gretchen, let me come to you on this because this is for type A people, um, and I I felt this way for a long time. voice-verified

You hear this and you're like, I don't know. voice-verified

But you draw the distinction between self acceptance, which people get nervous about, and let's say um weakness or self indulgence. voice-verified

Just to jump in on that, Gretchen, like I find a useful heuristic to use the kind of fancy word that uh Dr. voice-verified

Santos and her colleagues use at Yale, that a useful uh m uh paradigm or mindset uh or frame to put on this is switching from an inner um drill sergeant. voice-verified

To an inner coach. voice-verified

Many of us, and I certainly did for much of my life, and I think in my w worst moments, I still think it, that we need an inner cattle prod, that we need to be f brutal with ourselves in order to get anything done. voice-verified

But Kristen Neff's research has shown consistently that self compassion, which is not self indulgence, it's just good inner coaching, makes you more effective, more likely to reach your goals. voice-verified

having interviewed Kristen and her longtime uh collaborator, Chris Germer from Harvard, uh having interviewed them many, many times here on the show, I've learned that one of the preeminent self compassionate questions to ask yourself is what do I need right now? voice-verified

And I I it's a very useful North Star. voice-verified

That's a nice refinement. voice-verified

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And you did it without using the word heuristic, which is so impressive for somebody from Yale. voice-verified

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