Dave Evans

And the reason that's always empowering is that it gives you the capacity to actually do what can be effectively done.

rather than find yourself simply standing outside of reality, like you're locked outside.

Well, standing outside and banging on the door of reality and complaining doesn't change a thing.

But getting inside reality and acting effectively can.

So that distinction between endorsing it and accepting it is a really important distinction, particularly if you're ever going to get in any difficult, you know, gray versus black and white situation, you got to keep endorsement and acceptance distinct.

Well, Arnie is quite a guy.

In fact, I talked to him just recently.

We actually had the privilege of taking him to his 90th birthday dinner about a year ago.

He's pushing 91.

It turns out the lesson that probably most formatively impacted Arnie Young in his life.

to become a good acceptor of reality was he was trying to become an artist.

He was a fine artist.

And he decided he wanted to do that as a living, not on the side.

He knew he could be an amateur artist and make a good living doing other kinds of things.

But no, he wanted to walk his talk and do his rather avant-garde kind of art.

And he was struggling and having a hard time.

And then he said an interesting thing.

He said, and suddenly I realized something that made all the difference.

I said, well, Arnie, what's that?

He said, I realize if I'm going to be an artist, I just have to accept that I'm going to be poor for the rest of my life.