Dr. Adele Lafrance
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259 appearances
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1 series
first heard Jun 2020
last heard Jun 2020
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So do you feel that contraction that might happen?
Yeah, tension.
Yeah, exactly.
Okay, so now put your body in that same resistant state.
like tight and now see what happens in your body below the neck once more.
Oh, I do not blame you for not wanting to put away those dishes.
It probably does not feel fair after everything else you've done today.
And I can imagine that you're just really looking for a break to connect with your friends on social media or even just read that book you really wanted to read.
And so one of the things is that in our culture, the way we have taught to respond to resistance or emotional pain actually can increase that resistance or that emotional pain.
So that's probably going to be our biggest pitfall is just the way we have been conditioned.
And that's no one's fault.
There's no one to blame for that.
In fact, one of the greatest...
sources of influence for that kind of pattern is World War Two in the aftermath of World War Two, when we really needed to suppress our emotions, either on the front line, or in times of crisis to get through to survive.
But the problem is when that those events were over, when the crisis was over, as a culture,
no one was there to say like, okay, now that you've suppressed your sadness, anger, shame, to get through this crisis, now we have to tend to these feelings again so that we don't end up increasing our rates of PTSD or substance misuse or all these other problems that came post-World War II.
And so this military mentality of emotion processing bled into the parenting context.
And it's still here today.
And so I really want parents listening to
do not feel bad if you find yourself engaging in knee-jerk responses or having interactions that are not so productive.
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