Dr. Alison Wood Brooks

ask you a question about you.

Listen, we've all been on that date, Mel.

We've all been on a date with, we call these people ZQs.

ZQs?

Zero questions, zero questioners.

My hope and what I want to say to the people listening is don't leave a conversation having asked zero questions.

Yeah, well, as in all things in life, you don't have control over what other people do in a conversation.

Reflecting about what you do have control over, like, okay, well, let's try and shift to a new topic that maybe they're more likely to ask me a question.

Maybe we shift to something where you have some expertise and they know you have expertise.

So they should ask you even more that you have, ask you questions.

I know.

It's really annoying.

It's really annoying.

I guess you're just saying make a mental note.

I mean, when you and in the context, let's go back to this context of dating.

If you're on a date with somebody, they go a whole date, two whole dates, three whole dates, not asking you much at all.

That could be a legitimate reason to not keep dating them.

Well, why would you?

Yeah.

I left a date in the middle after like 20 minutes once.