Dr. Alison Wood Brooks

How did you do that?

I excused myself to the bathroom.

I looked right into the mirror and I was like, this is never going to work.

I can't be with someone for the rest.

You can't be with someone for the rest of your life.

who within 20 minutes has made you feel infuriated that they're not interested in you.

And so that was that.

Yeah, I said, this was really nice.

We'll follow up.

Good luck.

And I just, I left.

I did text him later and I did give him the feedback because...

I did say, you know, I really was, it was a little frustrating that you didn't ask me anything about myself.

I don't usually do that with people, but in that case, it just seemed like he really needed to know.

And what did he say?

I think he was like, oh, I'm so sorry.

Yeah, there's a lot that holds people back from asking questions and it's not all disinterest.

Sometimes it's, again, this self-centeredness.

So there are some people who don't even think to ask questions because they're so focused on themselves and what's going on in their own mind and what they can share and dazzle you with.

Other times, though, people realize they should be asking questions and they struggle to do it because they're afraid.