Dr. Alok Kanojia

And the way that you framed some people are going to like what you do and some people are not going to like what you do.

That's on them.

So if we want to step away from the ego, we have to understand that don't take it personally, like literally that's the colloquial phrase, right?

But it's hard to do.

So if you're someone at home trying to figure out, okay, how do I connect with my true self?

How do I step away from my ego?

Notice your reaction to criticism.

Is your reaction of criticism, are you considering, are you actually being empathic?

So what empathic really means is are you putting yourself in someone else's shoes?

And the other person, hey, maybe not everybody likes pineapple on pizza.

Or are you taking it personally?

Do their insults determine your value as a human being?

And the moment that that starts to happen, the friction that you're talking about, which can be so fun, becomes torture.

Because now you have to make them happy.

In order to feel good about yourself, you have to make the people around you happy.

Yeah, let's just understand.

So it's hard to cultivate.

It took years for you to cultivate because you didn't have a teacher.

Right?

So let's be a bit precise here.