Dr. Caroline Fleck

Always try to, right.

Always try to, right.

Right, right, right, right. But like, don't be, you know, again, as I said before, I give myself just this little cute copy. That's it. Because if I'm like really dialed in on it, it gets awkward.

Right, right, right, right. But like, don't be, you know, again, as I said before, I give myself just this little cute copy. That's it. Because if I'm like really dialed in on it, it gets awkward.

Yeah, yeah, that's right. That's right. But again, we're naturally wired to do this. And so if you just kind of remember it in a moment, that's sufficient.

Yeah, yeah, that's right. That's right. But again, we're naturally wired to do this. And so if you just kind of remember it in a moment, that's sufficient.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That's right. We see it as almost a common courtesy.

That's right. We see it as almost a common courtesy.

But it is at a deeper level. And when it's used more intentionally to kind of establish connection, it can be used in those ways.

But it is at a deeper level. And when it's used more intentionally to kind of establish connection, it can be used in those ways.

Yeah. The next level up is to say, is to show some degree of understanding. Right. And usually this is like logical understanding, cognitive understanding. I can see how you got there. Right. And there's a couple of skills here. You can do the, anyone in your shoes would feel that way. Right. Like anyone in your shoes would be probably anxious about this set coming together.

Yeah. The next level up is to say, is to show some degree of understanding. Right. And usually this is like logical understanding, cognitive understanding. I can see how you got there. Right. And there's a couple of skills here. You can do the, anyone in your shoes would feel that way. Right. Like anyone in your shoes would be probably anxious about this set coming together.

You can do anyone in your shoes. A way more effective way to do it is like, oh my God, yes, I would be so anxious to. Like, me too. If you think about going to a doctor and them saying, like, if you're like, yeah, I don't know, I think I might, I don't know if I should get a second opinion. You should absolutely get a second opinion. If it was my child, that's what I would do.

You can do anyone in your shoes. A way more effective way to do it is like, oh my God, yes, I would be so anxious to. Like, me too. If you think about going to a doctor and them saying, like, if you're like, yeah, I don't know, I think I might, I don't know if I should get a second opinion. You should absolutely get a second opinion. If it was my child, that's what I would do.

We're like, yummy, that feels good. There's this sense of like, okay, I'm valid. What I'm thinking is valid. It's reasonable. I'm not being dramatic. I'm not being X, Y, or Z. That's kind of what these understanding skills communicate. One of them happens to double as a Jedi mind trick. I've just got a word here.

We're like, yummy, that feels good. There's this sense of like, okay, I'm valid. What I'm thinking is valid. It's reasonable. I'm not being dramatic. I'm not being X, Y, or Z. That's kind of what these understanding skills communicate. One of them happens to double as a Jedi mind trick. I've just got a word here.

Proposing.

Proposing.