Dr. Ethan Kross

Every few years, they would profile these kids' ability to manage their emotions. And they would profile them in a very rigorous way. They would put the kids through different... self-control tests. They would get their teachers and other people in their lives to report on how good they manage their emotions. And they'd get really fine-grained assessments of how good these kids were.

And then they basically waited over time to see... What does the capacity to manage your emotions in childhood and adolescence, what does it predict later on? When you fast forward, what you find is it predicts pretty much most of the things that we care about in our lives. The kids who are good at managing their emotions, they're performing better at school, they're performing better at work.

And then they basically waited over time to see... What does the capacity to manage your emotions in childhood and adolescence, what does it predict later on? When you fast forward, what you find is it predicts pretty much most of the things that we care about in our lives. The kids who are good at managing their emotions, they're performing better at school, they're performing better at work.

And then they basically waited over time to see... What does the capacity to manage your emotions in childhood and adolescence, what does it predict later on? When you fast forward, what you find is it predicts pretty much most of the things that we care about in our lives. The kids who are good at managing their emotions, they're performing better at school, they're performing better at work.

They're healthier too. Their organs are aging faster. more slowly than the people who are less good at self-control. And if you look at the mirror image, the kids who are not good at self-control, they're doing pretty poorly at work and in school. They're experiencing relationship difficulties, and their health is impoverished as well.

They're healthier too. Their organs are aging faster. more slowly than the people who are less good at self-control. And if you look at the mirror image, the kids who are not good at self-control, they're doing pretty poorly at work and in school. They're experiencing relationship difficulties, and their health is impoverished as well.

They're healthier too. Their organs are aging faster. more slowly than the people who are less good at self-control. And if you look at the mirror image, the kids who are not good at self-control, they're doing pretty poorly at work and in school. They're experiencing relationship difficulties, and their health is impoverished as well.

Now, the other really thing that came out of that study that I find to be the most exciting finding, and it's actually not the finding that got the most attention, is that You might come away from that study thinking, well, either you got it or you don't. Either you're good at managing your emotions. Behavioral genetics all the way down. Right. That's it. So why bother?

Now, the other really thing that came out of that study that I find to be the most exciting finding, and it's actually not the finding that got the most attention, is that You might come away from that study thinking, well, either you got it or you don't. Either you're good at managing your emotions. Behavioral genetics all the way down. Right. That's it. So why bother?

Now, the other really thing that came out of that study that I find to be the most exciting finding, and it's actually not the finding that got the most attention, is that You might come away from that study thinking, well, either you got it or you don't. Either you're good at managing your emotions. Behavioral genetics all the way down. Right. That's it. So why bother?

Well, what the researchers also saw is that some kids changed over time in their ability to manage themselves. Some kids got better. Some kids got worse over time. The kids who got better, they fared better on all these different metrics over time. The kids who got worse, their performance declined. So what we learned from that study, number one, is that this really matters a great deal.

Well, what the researchers also saw is that some kids changed over time in their ability to manage themselves. Some kids got better. Some kids got worse over time. The kids who got better, they fared better on all these different metrics over time. The kids who got worse, their performance declined. So what we learned from that study, number one, is that this really matters a great deal.

Well, what the researchers also saw is that some kids changed over time in their ability to manage themselves. Some kids got better. Some kids got worse over time. The kids who got better, they fared better on all these different metrics over time. The kids who got worse, their performance declined. So what we learned from that study, number one, is that this really matters a great deal.

Like your ability to manage your emotions, it's relevant to your ability to think and perform optimally at work. This is what's allowing you to divert your attention, to hunker down, to learn from critical feedback. It's impacting your relationships because I don't know about you, but-

Like your ability to manage your emotions, it's relevant to your ability to think and perform optimally at work. This is what's allowing you to divert your attention, to hunker down, to learn from critical feedback. It's impacting your relationships because I don't know about you, but-

Like your ability to manage your emotions, it's relevant to your ability to think and perform optimally at work. This is what's allowing you to divert your attention, to hunker down, to learn from critical feedback. It's impacting your relationships because I don't know about you, but-

Last time I came in contact with someone who wasn't very good at managing their emotions, they didn't have very good relationships with their friends and partners. They weren't great parents. And it's also impacting our health and well-being.

Last time I came in contact with someone who wasn't very good at managing their emotions, they didn't have very good relationships with their friends and partners. They weren't great parents. And it's also impacting our health and well-being.

Last time I came in contact with someone who wasn't very good at managing their emotions, they didn't have very good relationships with their friends and partners. They weren't great parents. And it's also impacting our health and well-being.

The links between the inability to manage your emotions and all manner of psychological disturbances, as well as physical problems like cardiovascular disease, problems of inflammation, even certain forms of cancer, All of those findings exist, but there's something you could do about it. Now, you mentioned you've been in, you just completed a course of psychotherapy, right? And you're doing CBT.