Dr. Joshua Coleman
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727 appearances
3 recordings
2 series
first heard May 2026
last heard 9 Jul
Dr. Joshua Coleman’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Good Life Project · Healing Family Estrangement: What To Say, And What Never to Say. · 9 Jul 2026
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kind of belief system, which is a much lower threshold for what constitutes abuse or harm or trauma.
Whereas the parents, you know, boomers and Gen Xers are raised during a time where the standards for what gets called abuse was just much, much higher.
So helping educate parents that the times have changed and that what your child has been raised in is very different.
And
I didn't raise my kid like that.
And I'm like, no, your kid wasn't just raised by you.
They were also raised by the internet or by their therapist or by the culture at large.
And so helping them kind of learn how to become more fluent in that language.
And more importantly, to see that nothing compels the child to have a relationship with them unless the parent can get fluent in that more contemporary language, which was certainly not the culture that the parent was raised in.
There's a lot of value there.
there, but it can also be completely misused and misunderstood.
I don't think that the younger adults who are saying they were harmed are lying about it or even manipulating.
I think that that's the culture that they were raised in, but it doesn't necessarily serve them, and it certainly doesn't serve the people that they're accusing of harming them.
Well, that's the problem, is that it is so subjective.
You could have identical twins, one emerging saying that the parent was really critical and abusive, and the other one saying, no, they weren't.
Because even with people who have a similar genetic presentation, they're still going to experience the parents differently in some kind of way.
And that's why I tell parents, getting into the rightness or the wrongness of it in general doesn't really serve you.
Really learning how to empathize with what your child's
experience was is far more important so commonly an adult child might say you emotionally abused me and if the parent has no understanding of that or doesn't think that reckons with what their own experience of their parenting was i encourage parents to say well it's clear that i have blind spots as a person or as a parent that i wasn't aware that that that that felt emotionally abusive to you but i'm glad that you let me know and is it that's something we can work on together in family therapy or if there's things you would like me to work on
In my own therapy, I'm open to that.
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