Dr. Karl Pillemer

So I want to clarify that because it's not like nobody cares about this anymore.

I mean, this really is the most important decision that a lot of people make because you can change your career.

So yeah, they believe that younger people...

aren't careful enough.

They, you know, like they observe their own children.

People get to a certain age and it's time to get married and that sort of thing.

And they have certain rules for choosing a mate that I think are useful.

One I have mentioned already, that it's okay to listen to the impressions of people who love you about your future mate.

You should absolutely choose carefully.

They argue that you should make sure that you have

It's very interesting.

They all talk about a gut feeling, so that people who violated that gut feeling that this was the right thing regretted it.

But one thing that may sound a little controversial, but was their strongest piece of advice in this choosing a mate carefully, is we may like to think that opposites attract.

But they really go with birds of a feather flock together.

They argue that you should marry somebody or put like, you know what?

I'll say marry, even though we know that this could mean a long-term partnership, but just to make it so I don't have to say that every time I'll say marry.

Marry someone who's a lot like you, who is fundamentally very similar to you.

So the idea is, this is a fact.

One of the strongest facts for...

from research on social relationships of all kinds.