Dr. Marielle Bouquet

OK, so what does this look like?

Because when you say it's telling the truth, like, OK, what am I doing?

Well, you're naming the truth for yourself.

Okay.

And I like to explain that further because, you know, when cycle breakers want to break cycles, they want to bring everyone along with them.

We want family therapy.

Everyone's in on it and everybody's going to heal.

And it doesn't quite work that way.

We first have to work with the person that wants to break the cycle first.

and naming the truths within their story, right?

What does that mean?

That if you feel like a parent has hurt you, they were physically abusive when you were growing up, that was deeply hurtful, it's a part of your journey, it's a part of your truth, let's name that.

Yes, they're a parent that took care of you, they provided, right?

You always had food on the table.

But there was also that element of violence that was really hurtful.

And we can name that for what it is.

It's the truth of what you experienced.

When we can acknowledge that and we can actually get into the weeds of how that hurt you, that is the process where we can actually start the journey of cycle breaking.

Well, you have to understand that, you know, you don't need their validation in order to heal.

Right.