Dr. Robert Glover
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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Going back to our tribal ancestors. Women by nature are security-seeking creatures. They outperform. They get more degrees than men. They get higher paying jobs than men nowadays. I mean, they can take care of themselves. They can open their own car door. They can buy their own car. They don't need a man. They really don't. The whole Gloria Steinem, women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle.
She went on and married a very wealthy man after she said that, by the way. I didn't know that. So they don't really need us, but they are wired to see us as their protector and provider, even if they don't need us to protect and provide. Now, even with that said, I've seen studies that the highest performing women, the women that are out there, high paying jobs, making the most money.
can't get boyfriends because they all want a guy that is performing as high as they are. And nowadays, a lot of guys aren't. And so even the high-performing women still want a high-performing guy, right? Still, they want that security system. So if our female ancestors look to the tribal men who were warriors, who were hunters, who were fierce, who were competent, right? who are masterful, right?
If they look to them for a sense of security, and that's wired into DNA, that's wired into who we are from a gender perspective. They want to be safe. They want to feel safe, bottom line. Hashtag Me Too was all about, I don't feel safe. That's what hashtag Me Too was. And then, but, you know, if we say nowadays, well, women don't feel safe, it's in their DNA.
They'll go, oh, you're being dismissive. You know, you're being gender stereotyped. But hashtag me too wouldn't exist if women felt safe. And yeah, that's partly our fault. That's partly just wired into the feminine gender. They don't feel safe. Now, again, they can do everything under the sun to have a good life and make a lot of money. But
When we approach a woman trying to get her approval, like I said, now we're the beta. She's the alpha. She's the stronger of the two. She's the decider. That's not going to turn her on.
And if we do anything that shows a little bit of strength, a little bit of fierceness, a little bit of wildness, as my coach and David Davis said, a little bit of your wild man, a little bit of your killer, the woman kind of goes, ooh. It gives me chills.
That guy could kill the spider. And even though they don't want us to pull their hair and drag them into the cave, they do want to know we've got a strength and a fierceness about it. My second wife used to say to me, I wrote No More Mr. Nice Guy when I was married to this woman, and she was hell on wheels. I loved her, but she was crazy. And she used to say to me,
how do i know i should say if you can't stand up to me how will i ever know you could stand up for me right and that's profound and she was right and that was such a great message if i'm if i'm quaking and bacon and you know fancy footwork trying to make her happy and avoid conflict and not upset her and she's watching all this women aren't stupid they're watching when we're these placating little boys trying to get their approval and and if they're going if they're going
This guy's a wuss. You know, if he's just letting me get away with everything, who's going to actually protect me when there's something that's a real threat here? So anything we do that shows any kind of strength. Now, again, I don't teach guys to be asses and I don't think you do either. But telling a woman I'm bored of this conversation is authentic.
And it takes strength and backbone and balls to be authentic. When you were telling that shoe story, I was smiling because I took a woman out and we dated for a while. I think it was first date, first, second date. I remember walking along a lakefront. It was a nice summer day. And she started telling a shoe story.
And I think she was telling me where like her and her sister went to these shoe parties where, you know, they bring shoes and women all drink martinis and try on shoes. And I go, oh, shoe shopping is women's porn. And she just thought she just froze, looked at me and got this steely eye in her, you know, look at her face. And she said, you get it. You get, you understand. Yeah.
Shoe shopping is porn for us women. And she goes, I like you, you get it. So, you know, anything just about being yourself, whether you say I'm bored with this story about you going shoe shopping, or you say something like, Oh, for women, shoe shopping is, is, you know, it's women's porn. Um, you know, being you and just not holding anything back.
I'll tell you another quick story because it involved a date kind of in the same location with another woman. Um, And then I also dated for a while. And I remember we went and got a little bite to eat at a happy hour. And then we were going to go walk along the same lake. And she had to go use the restroom. So she went to the restroom and walked back.
And I said, okay, I'm going to go hit the restroom too. And we'll go walking. And I just said, by the way, I really enjoyed watching you walk away from me.
And as soon as I said it, I thought, oh, you know, fuck, you know, I'm blowing it. You know, she was a smart lady, you know, Alzheimer research, research, a local university. You know, I thought, oh, you know, I probably blew it, but I'm just being me. I enjoyed watching her walk away. You know, I was looking at her ass. I mean, that's obviously what I said.
So anyway, you know, we broke up after about three or four months and, and, um, and then but we say friends and she told me one time she said do you remember like first second date you made that comment how you enjoyed watching me walk away from you i said yeah i said i thought i'd blown it she goes turned me on i loved hell yeah
Be authentic. Be you. If you're trying to please her, get her approval, say the right thing. You're boring. You're dull. There's nothing fierce about you. But if you will just be you and guys will tell me all the time, well, being me doesn't seem to really turn women on.
And I go, when was the last time any woman really saw you really saw the you that you are that maybe you don't even let yourself see because you're trying so hard to, you know, be good and get it right. And, you know, yeah. Yeah. Let them see the real you.
Well, yeah, because here's the deal. One of my core principles, I've got several core principles I teach men. One is be authentic, be yourself. Another one is be willing to get to rejection quickly. And that is find out quickly, is this woman a good match for you?
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