Dr. Robert Glover
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2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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So if you have a certain sense of humor, if you have a certain lifestyle, you need to find out, does the woman like the you that you are? So my sense of humor is saying, I enjoyed watching you walk away from me or turning to a woman and say, oh, shoe shopping is women's porn. I'm as irreverent with women as I am on this call.
I'll swear and just say, I say whatever comes to the tip of my brain without much of a filter. And either a woman's going to really like that Or she's not. And you know what? I need to be okay. I need to be outcome agnostic. You know, if she likes it, great. Let's see where it goes from there. If she doesn't like it, great.
I found out quickly I'm not going to waste my time trying to convince a woman that my humor is funny. You know, if she doesn't get it, doesn't like it, you know, I'll give you another example. I, a woman taught me many years ago to always open a woman's door. I was dating this one woman.
She, she'd grown up in Europe and, and I actually was visiting her and we went to London and remember I was shopping and like went to Harrods and stuff like that. And, and she stopped me and she said, Robert, are you going to open my door for me or not? And I said, I don't know. I hadn't thought about it. She goes, because sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. I don't care.
Either way, just tell me. Are you going to open my door or not? And I go, I'll open your door for you. And since that day, I train every woman I'm with to wait for me to open their door. Getting out of the car, going into a building. I've trained my mother, my granddaughter, every woman. I love watching my 16-year-old stepson open his mother's door for her. And he does it for his girlfriend. So...
women can open their own damn door they don't need me to open the door but it just it it creates um a loving dominance it lets them kind of be the the princess the queen and and but here's the story i i went on a date with a woman and i met her on match.com and and she put that she salsa danced and at that time i was salsa dancing so all right that's something in common
So, we set up a date and I said, give me a place near where you live. She lived 45 minutes from me and I'll come meet you there. So, we met there and chatted a little bit and I was hungry and I said, let's go get something to eat. You want to come with me? You know a place nearby? She said, yeah. I said, okay, come with me. So, I was driving a Mercedes E-Class at that time.
So, I opened the door and put her in and we drove just a few blocks and there's a diner. So, We pulled up, and what I typically do is I tap the woman on top of her leg, and I say, wait for me. I'll come open your door. They always do, right? I often have to remind them. It takes women a little while to get in the habit of a man opening their door.
As my mother said one time, if I was waiting for your dad to open my door, I'd still be waiting. He's been dead for 12 years. So- I tapped her on the legs and wait for me to open your door. And she hops out of the car and sprints to the front door of the diner and gets in the door of the diner even before I can get there.
And we sit down and she goes, I just need to tell you, I don't like to be controlled. And I go, I don't want to control you. I said, but if you hang out with me, I'll open your door. She goes, I don't like men telling me what to do. And I go, well, I have no desire to tell you what to do. I said, but if you hang out with me, I'll open your door. And we kind of talked about that a little bit.
And so then we got a bite to eat and we're walking out. She bolts out the diner door before I can get to it and open it. But she has to wait at my car. I've got the key fob, right? So she waits. I open the door, put her in. Drive her back to her car. And, you know, again, before I even say a word, she jumps out. So I'm driving home thinking another one and done. Got to rejection quickly.
That's great. No problems. Next day, I get an email and she says, you know, I think we got off on the wrong foot. I'd really like to see you again. I just don't like to be told what to do or be controlled, blah, blah, blah. And I said, I don't want to control you. I said, but if you hang out with me, I'll open your door. And I just held my frame, you know, good, good dance, right? Held my frame.
So here's what I did. I'm going to try and experiment. I sent her an email. I said, okay, meet me at this restaurant at this day, at this time. We'll go get tapas, and then we'll go dancing just up the street at the local ballroom. She wrote back and said, great. So I'm already taking control of the whole thing, right? Tell her where we're going to meet, what time.
So then we go meet, and she says again. We're eating. She says, you know, I don't want to be controlled. I don't like men. I said, I get that, but if you hang out with me, I'll open your door. So when we go to leave the restaurant, she waits and I open her door and we walk up the street. We get to the ballroom and she waits.
I open her door and then I lead her around the dance floor for an hour or so. So I'm still, you know, leading and controlling, so to speak. Right. So I had to go to work. I had something early the next day. I said, you know, I got to take off. So I'll walk you back to your car. She was parked somewhere. So again, she waits. So I walk her back to her car and we get to her car.
And this is a Seattle city sidewalk street, busy place. And I go to tell her good night. She puts her arms around my neck, wraps one leg around my leg, starts dry humping my leg, and sticks her tongue down my throat. I go, I think it's about as far as we go on a city sidewalk. But so...
the the being willing to get to rejection quickly i didn't care if she wanted to keep seeing me or not but i was going to be me i was going to set the time i was going to open the door and her biology her dna took over of feeling safe and secure and trusting and it opened her to where you know she was a sexual aggressor in this situation and
So that's why I say, be you, you know, be authentic, be willing to get the rejection. And if you're trying to please a woman, if I was trying to please her, I would have quit. Okay. All right. I won't open your door. You know, I won't do that bad thing anymore that you don't like, you know, people doing for you. And so it's just the power of being you and, you know,
I think the earliest thing I tried to teach men that I learned really early on, because I like everybody else. I don't like getting rejected. But I came to the realization pretty quickly, it doesn't hurt. A woman I don't even know not giving me a phone number or not going on a date with me, that hurts me how? I didn't know her five minutes ago and she's not going to go on a date with me.
Why does that hurt? But we, we tend to, we tend to, that ties into our shame. Oh, there's something wrong with me. She can see I'm a loser. Every other woman is going to see the same thing. She turned me down. They're all going to turn me down. And, and we, we, we do our emotional spiral around that. So that, that does hurt that, that, that spiral, that shame spiral hurts. Rejection doesn't.
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