Dr. Robert Glover
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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So we, A couple of things. I'll tell you a couple of things that I have men do. One is, yeah, go out and, you know, I'm not big into approach. I tell men walking across a room and starting a conversation with a woman just because you find her physically attractive is probably the worst reason to talk to a woman. You don't know a thing about her.
Just because she's physically attractive, that boosts your ego. Oh, if she was my girlfriend, I'd be so happy. You don't know her. She might be a total fucking bitch. She may be terrible in bed. She may have bad breath. She may laugh like a donkey. But she looks hot, so she'd be a great girlfriend. I know it. We're sure about that. So... What I tell guys to do is to, you know, escalate quickly.
You know, go out with some buddies and just for the fun of it, try to get three, five rejections in a night. Now, you can't be rude to the woman. You can't just piss her off to get rejected. But just, you know, walk up to her and say, hey, you know, my name's Robert. Saw you over here. I got to bounce, but I want to take you out. Give me your number. You know, just real direct. Tell her what to do.
I always tell guys, never ask, tell. Have your phone out. Say, give me your number. I want to take you out. And, you know, odds are she's going to say, I don't even know you. But I've gone out. I went out with a buddy one night trying to get five rejections. I couldn't get five in a night. I was talking to women that should not have been giving me numbers.
I went to a college music fest with a client of mine who's a jazz musician. And I'm sitting next to this, you know, college-age girl. I was probably...
50 i don't know you know and and i'm talking to her and i said you like jazz she goes yeah i say well yeah i know the piano player i said let's go listen to jazz sometimes she goes i'd love to so give me your number she gave it off and spelled her name for me get three or five rejections in a night by the time he gets to the second one he's usually kind of doing a pump fist and grabbing his crotch and doing a happy dance i did it i did it right it didn't kill me exactly it's the anticipation
that's what i've been afraid of for 38 years yeah it was nothing it was fine yeah so i love the and i found that when guys will go do that if if you go get that three or five rejections in a night it pretty much just kills your fear of rejection you realize that's it yeah that's all i was afraid of i just got no they're not going to give me a phone number but the thing is
going and trying to get rejected, you look confident as hell. I mean, you walk right up, you say, hey, I'm Robert. I want to take you out. Give me your phone number. That looks confident as hell. And women, I've been telling guys for years that because women are security-seeking creatures, confidence is just a major turn on. And I tell guys, if you interact with a woman confidently,
She will have the exact same brain chemicals releasing in her brain that you would have if she lifted her shirt and showed you her tits. You don't have to think, do I like that? No, you get aroused because it's wired into you. Again, it's evolution. It's wired into you.
It's wired into them that when a guy interacts confidently with them, they get that same tingle, that same arousal, that same buzz that we get when we see tits. So that trying to get rejected is actually a powerful tool because, as I said, I've gone out and couldn't get five rejections because I just came across as so confident the women wanted to give me their numbers.
I'm having a good time. And so are they. And that's really all women want is to have a good time with us. And we're having a good time. And, you know, Buddha said that attachment to outcomes, the cause of all suffering. So that thing, I want that woman to like me. I want that woman to give me a phone number. I want that woman to be my girlfriend. Well, that's just a recipe for suffering.
So if you are outcome agnostic, where you just go interact with people, have fun, be you. good things happen. And then, you know, again, not everybody's going to want to give us a number or go home with us or date us. That's okay. So just quickly, the other thing that I do in my workshops with guys, and I don't tell them ahead of time, the reason why we're doing it.
And I, and this little, little drill has many different applications that I use with nice guys, but I just pair everybody up to, you know, everybody's paired up with another guy. And again, Person A will decide who person A is for two minutes, has to say to person B, I want. I want to be happy. I want to make a million dollars. I want a bigger dick. I want world peace. I want whatever.
And person B has to say no to everything they say. I want to be happy. No. I want to make a million dollars. No. And so for two minutes, and then they switch and do it the other way. Now, just for two minutes of that, the guys will be laughing, having a good time. I have to holler over them, time, time, switch, we're done. And they're just laughing and having a good time.
And so we sit and make some applications. And I'll say...
you guys everybody says oh rejection hurts i said you just got rejected over and over again for two minutes and you were having fun and you were laughing and you're having a good time and i couldn't make you stop what's the difference and really the difference only is the context and the story we put on it this guy standing across from us telling us no for two minutes we don't create a story about it it's just it's just no it's just words it's just it's just a game it's just play
But when we're with a woman, because we're attached to outcome and we want her to like us to validate our low sense of self, we get attached to that. And then when she doesn't want to give us a number or go out with us, it hurts because of the story we put on it.
But what if we treated all of our interactions with women like that game we were doing with a buddy at a workshop of just anticipating no, going for, you know, go for no, go for rejection. And then, you know, and just laugh and have fun and have a good time. And you get a lot more yeses that way.
I'm going, I'm going to kiss you, you know, um, you know, I, I, one night I, I taught a, just an evening dating class at a local community college. And afterwards I said, I'm hungry. You guys want to go get a bite to eat? So about six or eight of us went to one of my favorite restaurants, a Ruth's Chris restaurant near where I live. And I knew all the waitstaff in there and the bartenders.
And there's one woman, Jessica, kind of a snarky woman, but I liked her. She's a good waitress. Comes by the table and said, Jessica, I got a question. I was asking this for the benefit of all the guys. And I said, yeah. Jessica, how do you like it when your boyfriend leaves all the decisions up to you and says, what do you want to do tonight? What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go?
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