Dr. Sarah Ashton

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The Hook Up · How to live the kink life · 14 Dec 2020 podcast

But I'll kind of make some some general comments that um relate to some of the themes that were brought up.

So yeah, I suppose that if if we're talking about the the issue of of consent in the context of of meeting up and and practicing kink.

just like with any other sexual behavior, there there needs to be a uh a shared understanding of what's okay and what's not okay um with i every person that's involved.

Um so just because uh somebody thinks that you consent to something or you've agreed to meet up with them or

You've even agreed, you've said verbally that you want to engage in any kind of play or any sort of act.

That does not necessarily mean that you will continue to consent.

So consent can can change over time and it can change in different contexts.

And it's our responsibility to check in with the people that we're um having sex with or we're playing with to make sure that they're okay with.

what we're doing.

And so

In terms of, you know, just sort of the the processing and and the reflection around something like this that happens, I think it's really important to just sort of acknowledge that.

You know, we are not responsible for other people's behavior.

They hold responsibility for checking in and for navigating consent.

And if somebody violates our consent, if somebody does something that we're not okay with, that's not our fault.

That's not something that we need to hold responsibility for.

I think the other really important point to kind of mention around this as well is that there's a lot of conflicting advice and information about the practice of choking.

So choking in itself is is really quite a dangerous behavior to engage in.

Even if you know someone quite well and you know their body quite well, there's a lot of risks surrounding this behavior.

So there's there's some consensus even within the kink community that this is not actually a safe behavior to engage in and that an incredible amount of of physical risk that's involved in it.

So I think that, you know, when you're considering and you're setting up your play session, you're really wanting to understand the

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