Elizabeth Shaw
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1,154 appearances
11 recordings
1 series
first heard Nov 2016
last heard Sep 2021
Elizabeth Shaw’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Exactly.
And so then the avoidant person can say, Geez, you're needy and the anxious person who might be just quite mildly anxio anxious thinks, Well, gee, that feels harsh.
Well, I think you're commitment phobic, you know.
And they can get into this whole
Yeah.
But what you'll notice is in relationships
You start to get this sort of feedback and what you've got to work out, which is quite tricky
Is the feedback I'm getting to do with the forces at work between the the people that are actually chosen?
Like is that person really over the top with their demands?
And can I somehow objectively know that?
Or is that in fact about me?
That in fact they're asking something that's probably quite reasonable.
And and I'm the one who's who's actually um uh being difficult by my reaction.
And and that's quite hard to work out.
I mean that's where friends and experience comes into play because if someone says, Well look, I just thought I'd like to see you a couple of times a week
the the avoidant person might say, Well look, I know that's probably pretty reasonable, so I think that's about me.
You know, and same with the anxious person.
I know it's not reasonable to need reassurance three times a day.
I'd love it, but I can't get it from anyone I've ever dated, so I think that's probably about me.
You know, you've after a while gotta start to look at yourself and and see what it's bringing up for you.
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