Esther Perel

That is the essential liberation that any woman needs to feel, especially when I hear what Christina just said about that biological instant response that she has to the kids. It's how do I allow that to recede and I trust that everybody's fine so that I can finally enter into myself and give myself the permission to think about me and experience my own pleasure.

That is the essential liberation that any woman needs to feel, especially when I hear what Christina just said about that biological instant response that she has to the kids. It's how do I allow that to recede and I trust that everybody's fine so that I can finally enter into myself and give myself the permission to think about me and experience my own pleasure.

give her the permission to be slightly more selfish in the moment. Because desire is that attention onto me that says, I deserve, I can be, I can enjoy, and everything else is fine. And that's how I can let go.

give her the permission to be slightly more selfish in the moment. Because desire is that attention onto me that says, I deserve, I can be, I can enjoy, and everything else is fine. And that's how I can let go.

give her the permission to be slightly more selfish in the moment. Because desire is that attention onto me that says, I deserve, I can be, I can enjoy, and everything else is fine. And that's how I can let go.

But you need to be willing to ask for things, right? What starts to happen when you're in that kind of a dance is that he says yay, you say nay, and your emphasis is on all the nays and his emphasis is on all the yays. So it's about you asking, do I want to just relax? Do I want something more sensual? Do I want us to be naughty? Do I want to just have fun? Do I want to connect?

But you need to be willing to ask for things, right? What starts to happen when you're in that kind of a dance is that he says yay, you say nay, and your emphasis is on all the nays and his emphasis is on all the yays. So it's about you asking, do I want to just relax? Do I want something more sensual? Do I want us to be naughty? Do I want to just have fun? Do I want to connect?

But you need to be willing to ask for things, right? What starts to happen when you're in that kind of a dance is that he says yay, you say nay, and your emphasis is on all the nays and his emphasis is on all the yays. So it's about you asking, do I want to just relax? Do I want something more sensual? Do I want us to be naughty? Do I want to just have fun? Do I want to connect?

Do I want to just be taken care of? All of these are places that we go in the erotic world. That have, you know, you can, as you just said, you can do a lot in sex and feel absolutely nothing. Women have done that for centuries. You know, in the erotic, you can do very little and feel a lot.

Do I want to just be taken care of? All of these are places that we go in the erotic world. That have, you know, you can, as you just said, you can do a lot in sex and feel absolutely nothing. Women have done that for centuries. You know, in the erotic, you can do very little and feel a lot.

Do I want to just be taken care of? All of these are places that we go in the erotic world. That have, you know, you can, as you just said, you can do a lot in sex and feel absolutely nothing. Women have done that for centuries. You know, in the erotic, you can do very little and feel a lot.

But for that, you need to ask for certain things and know that you have someone who really appreciates it and welcomes it. Because then, you know, he likes to give, he likes to make you feel good and happy. Even if it's just, you know, small little things, it's about pleasure, not about performance or outcome.

But for that, you need to ask for certain things and know that you have someone who really appreciates it and welcomes it. Because then, you know, he likes to give, he likes to make you feel good and happy. Even if it's just, you know, small little things, it's about pleasure, not about performance or outcome.

But for that, you need to ask for certain things and know that you have someone who really appreciates it and welcomes it. Because then, you know, he likes to give, he likes to make you feel good and happy. Even if it's just, you know, small little things, it's about pleasure, not about performance or outcome.

I mean, sexual candor is really difficult, you know. And here's the thing. The majority of people often fall in a trap where they think that they will want more sex from talking about all the sex they don't want. Okay, you got it. You know, it's like we talk about the problem.

I mean, sexual candor is really difficult, you know. And here's the thing. The majority of people often fall in a trap where they think that they will want more sex from talking about all the sex they don't want. Okay, you got it. You know, it's like we talk about the problem.

I mean, sexual candor is really difficult, you know. And here's the thing. The majority of people often fall in a trap where they think that they will want more sex from talking about all the sex they don't want. Okay, you got it. You know, it's like we talk about the problem.

Yes, but you can turn that whole thing. You see, what happens is that then you start to say, I don't even want to cuddle because then he's going to get turned on. He's going to get turned on. He's going to want more. He's going to want more. I'm going to frustrate him. He's going to get up. He's going to be all upset. He's going to pout, etc., Yeah. But so turn it around.

Yes, but you can turn that whole thing. You see, what happens is that then you start to say, I don't even want to cuddle because then he's going to get turned on. He's going to get turned on. He's going to want more. He's going to want more. I'm going to frustrate him. He's going to get up. He's going to be all upset. He's going to pout, etc., Yeah. But so turn it around.

Yes, but you can turn that whole thing. You see, what happens is that then you start to say, I don't even want to cuddle because then he's going to get turned on. He's going to get turned on. He's going to want more. He's going to want more. I'm going to frustrate him. He's going to get up. He's going to be all upset. He's going to pout, etc., Yeah. But so turn it around.