Esther Perel

So the first thing is, where does the perfection come from?

Right?

Many different sources, but one that comes up immediately is when you look at your phone, it will tell you from app to app, everything

where to go, what to listen to, where to eat, what to watch next, what to listen for next.

And it gives it to you without any ambiguity.

It gives it to you with utter predictability and perfection.

And all those technologies that we are having in the palm of our hand are promising to unburden us of all the inconveniences of life.

And this is in major part what is warping expectations between people, because now I want my people that I meet to be just as predictable and just as perfect and just as unquestionable and just as certain as the responses that I get in the palm of my hand for every second question I have.

What happens between people is filled with uncertainty.

It's experimentation.

It's the unexpected.

It's the unknown.

It's the surprise.

It's the curiosity.

That's what drives relationships with people in the beginning.

And none of that is being trained when all I need to do is click on something.

And God forbid I would get lost and discover a whole new landscape that I didn't even know existed.

A building I had never noticed.

Serendipity.

Spontaneity.