Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
Happenstance.
Those things produce anxiety rather than awe and surprise at this moment.
Right.
We are by nature unpredictable, flawed, imperfect.
And that, you know, what happens when you look for perfection and predictability in people is that you stop being able to deal with the messiness of human life.
the smells, the bumps, the caretaking, the less shiny aspects of intimacy, i.e.
not the six pack, right?
Not the six pack, Esther.
Not the six pack.
What do you do when you're dealing with the messiness of human life and you've become accustomed to always on delivery of your every delight, you know, perfect pitch?
That is before the advice.
That's even before we've come to the advice.
Right.
Or the knowledge that when you meet someone, excitement and insecurity go hand in hand.
Of course you're anxious.
Of course you're wondering.
Of course you're unsure.
Of course you're trepidatious.
And you're excited.
And you're expectant.