Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
When do I know that the butterflies are the sign that something is opening up and happening versus a sign that this is something that may be troublesome?
The only way you know is context.
And context means that you look for other signs.
Is it all the time?
Is it in writing?
Can you have a conversation in person?
Can you act?
It's not just you put yourself out there.
It's that, of course, you come with your vulnerability.
If you're not vulnerable, you're probably not interested enough.
Just let's put that out.
Vulnerability is a sign that I care that something important is happening here.
I'm interested.
And now I'm not sure.
Are you interested too?
Are you interested as much as me?
Did you think about me as much as I thought about you?
You know, instead of wondering how many words shall I send before I show myself to be too needy and too dependent?