Eve Rodsky

So that's easier, but it often doesn't work that well because you haven't actually come to the core of Fair Play, which is sitting down to discuss how were birthdays celebrated in your home?

So that's what I like to say.

If you have a hard time, if you're not those systems people who are just willing to go in and make things more efficient, start with a communication practice, maybe on your birthday, maybe another time when emotion is low and your cognition is high, and just take three cards.

I will assign them to you right now.

Take groceries.

Let me just pick some that are good, that I love stories.

Take groceries, take birthday parties, and take gifts.

Pick those three.

Those are three of the Fair Play 100 cards.

And just ask your partner, who did gifts in your home growing up?

Do you remember getting any gifts that you loved?

And then how do you want to do it?

Right.

But the how do you want to do it is harder because we don't realize how much we've been affected by the way things were in our home.

I wanted – I'll give you an example.

I wanted – Seth decided to own garbage.

But I was his garbage shadow.

I just couldn't stop following him around the house.

And he's like, listen, I'm not going to own this or play this game if you're stalking me over garbage.

Well, this is – I mean asking for a friend, taking the marker out of their hand.