Gemma Cribb

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The Hook Up · New Relationship Energy - aka the 'honeymoon phase' · 1 Jul 2019 podcast

And don't cancel dates on friends just because you want to hang out with your new buddy.

And don't stop going to the gym or going to the classes that you have committed to just because it's so much more exciting to be with him.

Yeah, it's a really good question.

There are reports of people who can keep it going.

It takes effort though.

So in that original phase, it comes naturally because your brain just gives you all these juicy chemicals.

After that fades, you have to put lots of energy and effort into creating space and time.

creating novelty in your relationship.

So dopamine gets released when you're doing new stuff.

So finding fun things to do on the weekend that you haven't done, finding ways to surprise your partner like that other caller said, making lots of time to stay connected emotionally and chatting about, not about work or about the kids, just chatting about you and your deep feelings and needs and staying connected in that way.

Esther Perel also has some really interesting ideas which are a little controversial.

She talks about creating space in the relationship and her book Mating in Captivity is a really good one in that space if you want to have a little read.

magnetic thing.

Yeah.

You can't keep your hands off each other and you've got this constant spontaneous desire for this other person and, you know, you're insatiable a lot of the time.

And that's because that cocktail of drugs that I was talking about also combines with estrogen for women and testosterone for...

And it really increases your libido beyond its normal set point.

So different people have different libidos generally and libido changes over your lifespan.

But when you're in that first honeymoon period, everyone's libido is enhanced.

So they always have lots of good juicy sex.

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