Grace Beverley
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5,673 appearances
29 recordings
6 series
first heard Apr 2026
last heard today
Grace Beverley’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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recordings per month · last 12 monthsRecordings per month over the last 12 months — 29 in all, peaking in Jun 2026 with 10.
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Like, of course you would compromise that.
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It's a very normal and human thing to do.
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But it is also a way of overriding what someone else has actually quite clearly told you about themselves.
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And the more straightforward way to think about this is that when someone genuinely likes you and wants things to progress in a certain way, they are not going to open with the reasons why it might not.
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So when someone does the front load, like the caveats, just take them seriously and see it as them telling you who they are and what they want, because that is what they are doing.
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And finally, number six, I decided that whatever long-term relationship I was going to be in had to make my life at least twice as good.
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I remember saying this in a conversation with Sarah Ashcroft in one of our earlier episodes.
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I believe that your partner should make most area of your life measurably better.
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A good few of the areas of your life should be two times better.
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not perfect because obviously life is going to throw things at everyone and relationships involve conflict and many different difficult things they are difficult in some ways but in the things that are within your control and within something you are able to label in terms of what you actually want from your life you should be able to point to the ways that your life is bigger more joyful more stable more you because of this person if you are shrinking performing holding your breath waiting to see who they're going to be today that is not a partnership
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And this wasn't in the plan, but I also think it is very important to say that at some point during all of this, someone will tell you you are being too picky or you will tell yourself that the standards are too high, that the list is too long, that you are going to price yourself out of the market.
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to that is that you are not too picky you are clear and clarity is a gift to everyone including the people you don't pursue actually a 2014 study from northwestern university found that people in relationships where both partners felt they had genuinely chosen each other rather than like defaulted into the relationship out of circumstance or fear of the alternative showed stronger relationship functioning across every measure they tracked and
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And I know that if you're in the dating trenches or experiencing the single tax or lonely, it is very hard to hear someone say that.
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I don't think I'd want to necessarily hear that years ago, but I am a firm believer that holding out for genuine compatibility and getting really clear on what that compatibility looks like is one of the biggest acts of self-love you can do.
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So that is the episode on marrying well in 2026.
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And I want to say one final thing before I go.
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None of this is about being cold or too strategic or turning dating into project management.
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I think the most important thing I did in the lead up to finding my husband was building a life I genuinely loved for myself.
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A life that a relationship would add to rather than be necessary to complete.
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And the fact that a lot of women can now choose our partners from a place of desire and want rather than economic necessity is honestly one of the most significant shifts in women's lives in the past century.
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