James Sexton

This person really gets to know you in a really deep way.

And intimacy...

Intimacy is not about sex.

Like when you talk to people about intimacy, like they often refer to sex, but intimacy is defined as the ability to be completely yourself with another person.

And I think it's actually the way we want desperately to be loved.

I've said before, I'm not religious.

I don't believe in a devil.

I believe in God, but I don't believe in a devil.

But if there was a devil, I think the devil's principal function would be to convince us that we're so bestial and awful that God couldn't possibly love us.

And I think...

We're very scared that if someone, like the person who loves us, really knew us, like really knew what's in our hearts, really knew the awful thoughts we have sometimes, the weaknesses of us, that they couldn't possibly love us.

Like they only love me because they don't know me.

If they knew me, they wouldn't love me.

And I actually think that that's probably not accurate.

Like I think that if we can be – because the really wonderful thing is when someone sees you –

you're good, you're bad, like not the character you're playing, but like the real you, like the real you, the good parts, the shit you need to work on, and they love you anyway.

Like that's love really worth having.

Like that's love you can really feel down to your toes and it's love that inspires in you, radiating that to the other person.

But I think that it's very easy for that spiral to go in the wrong direction because once you start to like,

shut off parts of yourself because you don't want to look at it or you don't want them to look at it maybe because it makes you feel weak or vulnerable and you think they won't love you or