James Sexton

By sharing it, you're afraid they'll have a weapon against you, like it's your soft spot and they'll know what it is and that's scary.

Same reason why some people don't want to be in therapy, because it's like, what am I afraid to feel?

What am I afraid to look at?

The best definition I ever heard of addiction was, addiction is any behavior you engage in to get away from feeling what you would have felt if you'd done nothing at all.

And for me, work is my favorite narcotic.

You know, anytime I'm super stressed, I'm like, oh, I'm great at work.

I'm just going to work.

I'm just going to work.

And I have friends that exercise.

It's like, oh, I'm just going to go to the gym.

I'll feel better if I just go to the gym.

The truth is, is that's actually a moment where you might need to just do nothing at all and feel what you're feeling.

And I think that that's the practice we have to cultivate in relationship.

Yeah, but that's dominion that's caretaking.

That's, you know, you have power over an animal.

But actually, to some degree, like, the fact that they're so powerless...

is I think part of the beauty of it is that they they're they're just powerless and trembling before us and that's I think what inspires in us such compassion and love you know and it because they don't really have anything to offer us other than love.

They don't have any other agenda, really.

They have a very simple agenda.

They wanna eat, they wanna sleep with you, they wanna cuddle.