James Sexton

Because these people are just, everything is in good faith.

Like, there's no hidden agenda.

Everything is, like...

Yeah, I really want this to work.

I really want this person to like me, and I really want to like them.

And it's just from an abundance of good faith.

And I think that that's amazing.

And I think there's nothing preventing us from harnessing that.

Anyone listening to this right now can just make a decision for the balance of the day, whatever time of day it is.

I'm just going to slightly modify how I interact with my partner in a way that just signals more good faith and more connection and less criticism.

And again, I'm not saying tolerate terrible behavior.

I think there's times where people have to be, but again, there's even a way to do it, you know, and I've talked about that before.

Like you can, you know, you can manipulate your partner in positive ways.

Like, you know, you don't, if you say to someone, you know, we're not having sex as much as we used to.

Common complaint in long-term relationships.

That invites defensiveness.

Well, yeah, you're not around as much.

You're working all the time.

Well, I'm working all the time because you spend all the money.

Well, I'm spending money because I'm other.