Jason Wilson

And that's why so many of us can't meet the moment, especially in relationships, because we've allowed the world to define us as men. And then even the one word or adjective masculinity is not a comprehensive definition of what it means to be a man. It's just attributes such as boldness, strength and aggression. But what about nurturing, kindness, long suffering, patience?

Those aren't feminine attributes. Those are human attributes. And so instead of masculinity or femininity, we practice humanity. Like, what do I need to be as a comprehensive human being? And that's where men struggle, because even in movies, like when the last time you really seen conflict resolved between two action heroes without fighting or killing each other?

Those aren't feminine attributes. Those are human attributes. And so instead of masculinity or femininity, we practice humanity. Like, what do I need to be as a comprehensive human being? And that's where men struggle, because even in movies, like when the last time you really seen conflict resolved between two action heroes without fighting or killing each other?

You know, and then we wonder why road rage is at an all-time high, why there's a lack of patience with men, even in conflict or in business. I want to be the top dog or the classic alpha male, which has been proven a myth. Like there is not a dominant fight for a leader in a wolf pack. The leader of the wolf pack, leaders that is, are the breeding pair, the male and female.

You know, and then we wonder why road rage is at an all-time high, why there's a lack of patience with men, even in conflict or in business. I want to be the top dog or the classic alpha male, which has been proven a myth. Like there is not a dominant fight for a leader in a wolf pack. The leader of the wolf pack, leaders that is, are the breeding pair, the male and female.

Oh, yes. I mean, Google it and research. I wrote about it in the book because I believe that's one of the main things that prohibits men from being a comprehensive leader. You don't have to be dogmatic to lead people the right way. And so there is no alpha male, even in the wolf pack. Should men strive to be more alpha? What is it then? So now, so then the beta is negative. Like, so he's beta.

Oh, yes. I mean, Google it and research. I wrote about it in the book because I believe that's one of the main things that prohibits men from being a comprehensive leader. You don't have to be dogmatic to lead people the right way. And so there is no alpha male, even in the wolf pack. Should men strive to be more alpha? What is it then? So now, so then the beta is negative. Like, so he's beta.

So what does that mean? He's a nurturer. He's compassionate. He's caring. Those aren't soft attributes. Some of the greatest warriors had both. You know, that's why I said be a comprehensive man, be strong, but sensitive, be courageous, but also compassionate. You have to have boom. You want to be multifaceted, not what I call monofaceted. You can only do one thing.

So what does that mean? He's a nurturer. He's compassionate. He's caring. Those aren't soft attributes. Some of the greatest warriors had both. You know, that's why I said be a comprehensive man, be strong, but sensitive, be courageous, but also compassionate. You have to have boom. You want to be multifaceted, not what I call monofaceted. You can only do one thing.

And because of that, so many men are stuck in first gear in life. You know, that first gear is that's the masculine gear to get you from stop to start and get you going. But what happens then? Do you stay in that gear if you're driving that car? No, you'll burn out your clutch. That's what so many men are on the edge of suicide today, because everything is by your strength, by your will.

And because of that, so many men are stuck in first gear in life. You know, that first gear is that's the masculine gear to get you from stop to start and get you going. But what happens then? Do you stay in that gear if you're driving that car? No, you'll burn out your clutch. That's what so many men are on the edge of suicide today, because everything is by your strength, by your will.

You're only identified by your accomplishments instead of who you are. That's why you can't rest. You can't find peace. And I often say peace has to be within you before it's around you. So there's many, I believe, reasons for why we are where we are as men. The biggest fear of us is really doing the introspective work to find the healing that we desire and deserve.

You're only identified by your accomplishments instead of who you are. That's why you can't rest. You can't find peace. And I often say peace has to be within you before it's around you. So there's many, I believe, reasons for why we are where we are as men. The biggest fear of us is really doing the introspective work to find the healing that we desire and deserve.

My wife did it. Again, the struggle comes in with men is the process. So the same way we have to unlearn what we've been deceived to believe a man is, We have to give our wives or the women in our lives that same grace to unlearn what they've been doing.

My wife did it. Again, the struggle comes in with men is the process. So the same way we have to unlearn what we've been deceived to believe a man is, We have to give our wives or the women in our lives that same grace to unlearn what they've been doing.

And a lot of times as men are breaking free from what I call emotional incarceration, if they face a woman or in a relationship where she just say impassively dismisses a moment where he is transparent with how he's feeling, now he wants to go back into the ways where he was hardened.

And a lot of times as men are breaking free from what I call emotional incarceration, if they face a woman or in a relationship where she just say impassively dismisses a moment where he is transparent with how he's feeling, now he wants to go back into the ways where he was hardened.

And I tell him, no, no, it's not time to retreat back to that cell, that mental jail cell where you know there is no peace.

And I tell him, no, no, it's not time to retreat back to that cell, that mental jail cell where you know there is no peace.

So don't be with that woman. Yeah, so a lot of men, we, see, we're changing for the wrong reasons. When I made the journey into comprehensive manhood, I had to change for myself. One moment, I'll never forget, my wife and I, we were in the car, we were arguing, and this was when I was learning how to become a verbal processor, how to express what I'm feeling without yelling or hitting things.